Time

“Do Not Waste Precious Time Dwelling On The Things We Have No Control Of , In Due Time All Things Will Make Sense.”

I believe that time reveals, and time teaches us a lot about ourselves, our relationships, and provides us with clarity on our experiences when we put in the work. Time is precious but also a valuable teacher in our life experiences, as we grow and our mind develops over time, we begin to see things differently, think differently, and are mindful of our actions. While everyone is operating from their own level of consciousness, we must understand that everyone will not be in the same space at the same time. Does this mean that there is no room for growth or mending? yes there is with much patience, and understanding of the space a person is in. The problem is most of the time many of us are so busy pushing our beliefs and views on other that we create distance and tension. The reality is although our intentions are pure it is important that we are mindful of each other’s boundaries respect them. There is something special about giving each other space and time that makes a huge difference in how we address situations and mending broken relationships peacefully. The first step in making that possible is to not place blame on others but to take responsibility for our part and identifying the areas that we need to work on or adjust. Growth does not happen overnight and there is no expiration date on your growth process, every day is a new opportunity to learn a little more and grow.

I can honestly say today I have learned to appreciate the value of time and how important it is to share what you are feeling and give others the opportunity to understand your concerns and respect them. I believe that it is important because from my personal experiences I have learned that what may come natural to me or may seem to be common sense to me may not be the same for others. Expecting an immediate response or change is an unrealistic expectation to place on others. Not being understood or received in that moment does mean that it cannot change, but when we are quick to react to what we have no control of we rob ourselves of the opportunity to heal and grow. I was going through a very tough time with a family member who I love dearly and in the midst of the shift in our relationship I reacted instead of listening and understanding where she was to give her time to understand and respect my feelings. When I speak on giving people time I do not mean that it is ok to comprise your peace or accepting less than you are worth , what I mean is being able to express yourself recognizing where a person is and separating yourself peacefully until they are in a place to receive and respect you. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt and everyone is deserving of a fair chance to grow, the saying that those who know better do better is a very true statement but also it is a choice to want to do better.

In conclusion I want to encourage everyone reading today to take a moment and reflect on your life, your relationships and ask yourself “have I always operated in ways that are effective to not only myself but also my relationship with others?”. We all have made mistakes; we all have been in very low places in our lives that hinders our ability to think before we speak and be mindful of other peoples struggles and mental space. Life is a give and take and being patient with each is very important, giving people space and time to work on self is an important process that has to take place at some point in our life. We all go through different seasons in our life and in every season in order to learn from our experiences to grow it requires a level of discomfort. Getting out of familiar places and separating from familiar faces and energy. The key is learning how to communicate it and being okay with the reality that not everyone will be able or ready to accept it, but we cannot allow that to hold us back from moving forward.  Be Patient with your process, be patient with yourself, and be patient with others in due time everything will make sense. Time is the master and we are the student be present in everything you do and remain grateful for everything you experience.  It is not about what makes sense right now it is about how you adapt to changes that will make sense later.

Discovering Life

“The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.” What does living the life of your dreams means to you, do you believe it is possible to live the life of your dreams? Growing up I was known to have a great imagination and the ideas I had about the life wanted did not seem impossible to me as kid. The older I got was when I began to think limits or in other words was taught to think realistically and doing what makes senses. The question is does it matter if your life, vision, or dreams make sense to anyone else if it makes sense to you? In my opinion I belief that the only person our vision needs to make sense to is ourselves, it is a gift or what I like to call a personal assignment assigned by God.  Everyone has been blessed with specific gifts and talents that makes them unique but unfortunately there are only few that understand their mission and is willing to take the risk. The needing approval and guarantee support becomes the downfall for many or why we never even get started.  The truth is unfortunately the people we expect to show up for us will sometimes be the last and sometimes we have to be open to maybe a never and be strong enough to keep going. Everything is not for everyone our focus should be on connecting with who needs our light and the value we have to add.

When I first got started on building my business two years ago, I was so excited and I was anticipating having the people I loved and adored on board, I painted a picture in my heart of us all growing together. I quickly learned that the dream was a never to happen fairy tale, I lost a lot of people along the way, I have been hurt, talked about, discredited, and laugh at. In the beginning it was a very hard pill for me to swallow and harsh reality for me to accept. I had to decide to either sink or swim I can dwell on the unfortunate circumstances or I can rise to the occasion and give a hundred percent of myself to my mission. Today when I reflect on my experience I am so grateful for everything I had to go though to grow to the space I am in today, every tear I cried, and all the pain was just God’s way of preparing me for what is to come. Instead of trying to figure out why I took responsibility for my role and invest time in working harder on myself to become the change I desired to see. Today I am open to all possibilities and connecting with new amazing individuals from all walks of life. This weekend I enjoyed conversations with women of all different races that I would have allowed my hurt to take over. We have the power of choice and everyday we must be mindful of the choices we are making to know if they are adding value to ourselves and others or is it a disservice.

In conclusion I pray that no matter what your story is, or the type of experiences you have had that you do not internalize them and allow them to mean anything about yourself. Who we were created to be is not determined by our mistake neither is it altered by them they are exactly what we needed to fulfil our destiny? Life is about taking chances, learning from our experiences along the way, falling and being brave enough to get back up and try again and most importantly being present to enjoy the process. Success does not happen overnight and will take  days ,months, weeks, years ,and even a lifetime but we will never have all the answers and we should never  stop learning always remaining coachable .You will never too established that you can not take advice or  be open to learning new. We must be willing to lose our old ways of thinking and being in order to make room to welcome the best versions of ourselves. Ask yourself “am I ready to take on what has been assigned and promised to me and am I willing to let go of or sacrifice to make room for new?  Write it down and answer them with details and be specific about your intentions of what you want for You and the type of impact or legacy you are striving to achieve.

“The Greatest Challenge In Life Is Discovering Who You Are. The Second Greatest Thing IS Being happy With What You Find.”

Relax & Trust God

Can you remember a moment in your life weather present, or the past being overwhelmed and extremely weary about your circumstances or being faced with an unexpected challenge? I can recall experiencing these very same emotions on many occasions in my life. The one thing that I remembered most was when it was over, and I realize it was not as bad as I thought and the fact that it was not as impossible as I thought it would be to overcome. The irony Is after each experience every time I was faced with a new challenge, I would go through the same motions all over again and in the end coming to the same conclusion.  The question I often asked myself was “why do you put yourself through extreme stress every time an adversity or challenge is present in your life.”  to me what that was, and it was the obvious lack of faith and trust in my process. Change is can be scary, sometimes challenging, and very uncomfortable most times but I am sure we can all agree that change is necessary tour growth.  The problem is not being flexible in our plans to adapt and create solutions to be able to thrive.

How do you change your perspective or how do you create a solution to take on life challenges? The first step that has been a huge benefit for my personal development and growth is committing to growing spiritually developing a prayer life. the reality is no matter what your religious beliefs are it is important to remain grounded in the source of our existence. The second important step I had to take on was my mind changing my perspectives, changing my thoughts and learning to see the good in everything. The third step for me was seeking accountability by surrounding myself with other like minded individuals that had the same goals. Making a commitment to change is hard but having someone to share the experience with and to hold each other accountability helps to keep us going. One of the many facts of  life is that we were not created to experience life alone and understanding that life is not happening to us it is happening for us, and we are not the only ones experiencing struggles. Today the woman I am and still striving to become is someone the old me would  be very proud of. Are you willing to get comfortable with being uncomfortable to grow in all areas of your life?

In closing I want to remind you all that the life you deserve is right on the other side of fear the moment you start trusting the timing and the  process of your life you can be free to thrive in life with purpose. Do not be limited by your circumstances or past mistakes, most importantly do not allow negative thoughts to shape your reality. We are not in control of time and we cannot predict what will happen next but what we can do is always hope for the best and expect the unexpected. Learning to not take any of our experiences as a personal attack is key to being present , accepting what is and doing our best to create a solution as we trust that God knows best .Everything that we experience is apart of our story  and an important contribution to our growth. Love the life you have been blessed with and love yourself enough to make changes that will grant you fulfilment and joy. The world owes you nothing the people in your life is not responsible for your happiness or how you fulfill your purpose in life. It is up to you to make the best out of every situation and making every single day of your life count for something. I challenge you to no longer stress  about the things you cannot change or have no control of and focus on what is in your control with confidence that you have what it takes to win.

“Stop Worrying About The Outcome ,Trust The Process and Embrace The Journey.”

New Operation

Have you ever taken a moment to reflect on some of the learned behaviors or past experiences that we have allowed to fill our minds and create our reality? I can admit that there are many stories that I have been told, and personal experiences that I allowed to be in control of how I was operating in life. The experiences and stories about relationships, friendships, men, and women, has been a major influence on the way I perceived life. The reality is there Is no need to blame or be angry what we must do is take responsibility for who we are being our actions and focus on shifting our energy and perspective.  Our parents’ generation and their parents’ generation experiences are not ours to take on or live in. I remember hearing phrases such as all men are dogs, you cannot trust women, people are mean, as a wife you have no choice you are the only responsible for taking care of the home. Those were just to name a few of the limits that we have been taught and they were the source of how we operate daily judging men, hating women, and being afraid of strangers. The saddest part is sometimes we may not have even experienced these things but by adapting someone else’s hurt we live as if that was our experience or hurt to endure.

When I first got started working on my business, I was extremely focused and set on having the people that I love and friends I have known my entire life to show up for me. Unfortunately, I had to learn the hard way that in order to achieve success you must be willing to step outside of your comfort zone and release old and limiting beliefs. I began to accept what is and work to become the change I desired and connect with other like-minded people along the way. These last three months has had such a major impact on me as a person and in my business. I was that girl that absolutely believed in the idea that I did not need friends especially females. Today I have a new tune not because I was taught different, I began to think different, I opened my mind to new possibilities and new connections. I began to pray about everything and ask God to bless my relationships and help me to identify when it is healthy and when I need to remove myself. I no longer walk around operating out of fear and judgement. I am open and understanding of the fact that everyone is operating from different levels of conscious, which means everyone does not think the same or is operating at the same level. Compassion and love will go a long way and most times that is just what a person needs in their lowest or most unsure moments. Everyone has a story we never know what they may have been through or is currently struggling with so it is important that we are not judging others based on our past experiences or the act that they may be showing in this moment.

In closing I want to encourage everyone to be open to connecting, loving, and growing with everyone. Be set or locked into a system that has been holding you back based on what you have always been told or even of your own unfortunate experiences will never benefit us in the long run. Always be true to who you are, never shut the doors on love and remain open to new connections and possibilities. The world is not out to get us and every one is not all bad some may be difficult , some are broken ,but they all just need love and understanding .Every day that we are blessed with life it is another opportunity to learn something new , connect with new and live a little more.  As we go through life there will be many ups and downs some more painful than others, but the beauty is always a lesson to be learned and a blessing in disguise. Be true to who you are no matter what happens along the way instead of changing who you are change how you are engaging in situations or with people. Pay attention, the red flags are always there for us to take caution when it is necessary and when it is time to walk away. All men are not dog, women can be trusted, and not all strangers come into your life to harm you.

“I Am Not Limited By What I Have Been Taught , I Am Limitless Because I Am Open To What God Has In Store For Me.”

I RIse

How many times In our life have we been in a position that really challenged your character and the person you are working to become? How many times have you questioned yourself? In life there will come into our lives for a specific reason and season, but so often we get into relationships anticipating long term with a forever future in mind. There will be connections that are broken not by fault or negativity but simply because of a shift and growth that may be present in one and not the others life. Everyone will not always be on the same page or have the same views as you do, and we must be willing to accept and move on without feeling resentful.  The longer we continue to keep reliving events that happened and is no longer happening is the more time that we are robbing ourselves of.  It Is very important that we are creating boundaries with others but most importantly with our emotions. Knowing how to choose our battles wisely and having the spirit of discernment to know when something or some one is not for us. the biggest struggle that most face is the unwillingness to take responsibility for our part, why? Reason being most people perceive taking responsibility to mean accepting ownership for the wrong. The responsibility we take does not have to always mean that we had ill intentions, sometimes being passive, not speaking up, or setting boundaries are the roles that we all can relate to doing that contributed to creating a conflict.

There is a saying that states “hurt people hurt people “which I have found to be very true. When all a person knows is hurt, hurting others becomes the foundation of their life to project that energy to others, it becomes almost like second nature.  I am grateful for growth in my life because I was hurt by a recent agreement and even going through my emotions, I was able to lose the spirit of anger and replacing it with compassion. There are people smiling daily, putting on a show for the world through pictures but internally they are crying out for help. It is important that we are always quick to forgive and slow to take on the spirit of revenge. A person that suffers with Self-inflicted wounds will be more harm to themselves than anything anyone can do externally. Leaning not to lean on our own understanding, and asking God to change our perspective to see all things and people for who they are and where they are in the current seasons. In many experiences I found myself feeling confused I used to question myself and in other cases blaming myself.  The reality is no one person is to be blamed but each participant has to be able to identify and willing to take responsibility for their contribution. The one thing I had to learn is that not everyone is willing to even if they are able to identify their role and we have to be okay with that.

“Fall If You Will ,
Rise You Must .”

Life is not fair, and everyone will not always agree or share the same views, taking responsibility and losing the desire place blame takes maturity and personal development. We are living in a time where a lot of people are operating from a space of lacking and hurt, it is important that we try to understand a person before we judge them or react. It is not always about us and most times people are battling with deep rooted issues that they may not know how to elevate or break free from.  Loving others where they are and understanding that everyone is operating from their own level of consciousness is important. Apart of our mission is to help when we can, be a listening ear when its needed, and being voice of reasoning when asked to be. Life is hard but how we perceive our experiences and respond to the challenges we face makes life worth living and a little less complicated.  Life is not happening to us it is happening for us every experience, every set back or delay teaches us something new about ourselves and helps to make us stronger. Get excited about adversities they are always blessings in disguise that one day will make a lot of sense why it was needed but we will only know if we never give up.