Healthy Connections

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“Show Up
Add Value
Choose Peace.”

Relationships can have a lot of influence and impact in our lives from friendships, family, parents, or significant others, they are all different types of relationships with a lot in common. I believe all relationships have basic common qualities that promotes a healthy and flowing relationship, from communication, understanding, support, and love. The relationships in our life can either contribute to your vision for your life or be a distraction and only subtract from your vision, for this reason communication is very important. Sharing our feelings and communicating what our boundaries about what we are open to and what we are not opened to is important, people can only respect and treat you the way you wanted to be treated if you not only tell them but display that same level of love and respect for yourself and others. No one is a mind reader and it is not anyone’s responsibility to read our minds to have peace and understanding in your relationships you must communicate; healthy communication makes the love and support easy and genuine. It is easier because communication gives a clear image of who we are, and they can either accept you for you are or not, but everyone has a clear understanding of how to treat each other.

 

However, communication is to provide information it is not for us to create expectations on others that they may not be able to fill, this is how you protect your peace. If there is someone in your life that just seems to be unable to respect and love you for who you are there is no need to debate or be upset this is an opportunity to choose peace. You choose peace by understanding that what you need from that person they may not understand it neither or they capable of fulfilling them we are able to let go and detach. Everyone comes from all different walks of life different upbringing, understanding, and cultural differences so what may be second nature to some can be foreign to others, and we must be open to understanding all sides to know how to move forward in ways that is beneficial to you and them. I have learned that on your journey to success there are levels and changes that we go through, the way we think the way act, and the quality of our conversations change. In these times is when most of our relationships are challenged, strengthened, or their season comes to an end, it can be very difficult and heart breaking sometimes. The reality is not everyone you start with you will finish with some people are prepared to journey with you and some are just not up for the journey and we as individuals must know when that time has come to an end. One of the most limiting things to do on your journey is trying to hold on to everything and everyone that prevents us from soaring high. Just like an air plane has a weight requirement so does our dreams.

 

It is extremely important to make sure that not only are you succeeding in your professional life, but you must make sure to have success in your personal life. I am firm believer that how you are in one are of your life is how you will show up in every area and if at home there is no peace and harmony, we begin to internalize those emotions that will later affect our professional performance.   There is a time and a place, season and a reason for everything and we must be able recognize and accept when it is time to let go and when to hold on and prepare to take flight. In life the bridges we cross the obstacles we face are never intended to be a personal vendetta from the universe they are gems we receive to guide us on our path it is all in how we perceive and use them to our advantage instead of seeing them as a disadvantage. I want to encourage everyone to make it a priority to set the foundation to create good and conducive relationships in your life starting with yourself first we can only be to others what we are to ourselves. It begins with you it starts within and once we master that we can attract and align ourselves with people that can contribute to our journey and vice versa.

Down Time Is Time To Create

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When I look at my life today and who I am committed to being in this moment this was not something I imagined or even dreamed being possible. While I knew I loved to write, and I absolutely loved working and connecting with people from all walks off life the hard part was the courage to believe I could create what I like to call a safe space to elevate and rise about your past circumstances. Being an entrepreneur to most people is not a real job or does not seem like a very promising or guaranteed earn base.  All of that was a factor but what really weighed on me most was one the fear of failing and how much it would cost, and how could I turn what I loved into a career and lifestyle. Naturally I made choices to rely on a more traditional approach to life and doing the bear minimum to get by. The question I had to ask myself and mediate on was can I see myself doing what I was doing for  the rest of my life and be fulfilled , the answer to that was no I was working in a job I absolutely did not enjoy I had no desire to be there and although I was working with the public it was not the service I wanted to provide. Life has a funny way of allowing you to run hide and procrastinate and then suddenly puts you in a position where the only choice you have is to create your lane and master all your dreams and goals.

 

I say this from experience after giving birth to my daughter running through all the self-defeating thoughts about what kind of job I was looking for, what did I really want to do with my life, how was I going to be a good mom, a present mom and work the ideal job that fit into my desires as a mother. I was hit with a news flash and a reality check number one there is no such job that is ideal for a mother because being a mother is a full-time job and sometimes you must compromise and miss out on some of those once in a lifetime moment due to work and the desire to provide. The reality is in my heart I wanted nothing more than to be a present mother while creating a life that I loved that would not require me to be absent or compromising my freedom and time. In six months after becoming a mother I had to put my mind to work, eliminate all my valid excuses and limiting thoughts and choose to go with faith and passion. A choice I will forever be grateful for, if I were to settle in my circumstances and keep singing my songs of defeat and why me I would have been in the exact same space because through all the applications I filled its been two years and I have never even gotten a response from any of them.

 

There is a win in every disappointment it’s all in our perspective and our will to excel no matter how bad the storms in our life may seem we have a duty to fulfil and that is allowing God to use us through our purpose to be in service to others. Time waiting could be great time in the making to hit the restart button, seek clarity and get active in creating a life you love one that brings you complete joy and fulfilment. Invest time in getting clear with what is in your heart and what you vision is for your life, then and only then can you begin to act. Once we have clarity, we are more excited about the journey and the easier it is to commit because you simply cannot afford to not see your dreams manifest. Life is a lot more interesting and excited when we live in the present, taking risks, and learning from our mistakes allowing them to build us up into the person that we were created to be. We all have a creative nature within it just takes the right timing, focus, and commitment to bring out the best in us, no matter what we do have fun and never miss a moment to exhale and appreciate everything.

“Close Your Eyes Make A Wish ,
And Dream While You Are Awake.”

Rise Up With Gratitude

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“The Struggle Ends When Gratitude Begins.”

Rising with thanksgiving and having a heart filled with gratitude promotes the energy mentally to be happy, open, and optimistic to what life has to offer in each day. I belief that the moment we can grasp the understanding that each day is simply a gift and not a guarantee the more appreciative we are just to receive such a blessing.  The one fact that a lot of people including myself at one point seem to miss or ignore is that every day is filled with new what I like to call the opportunity for a fresh start. There is no need and room to carry over the burdens and stress of yesterday into a new day that only promotes low energy and moments of regret, doubt, fear, and depression, and lack of motivation to rise above what our circumstances are.  Life is not about what happens or the experiences we go through it is about how we react and our approach to move forward with a solution rather than settling into a setback. What I mean by settling into a setback is to wake up each day being a victim to your circumstances and putting the responsibility on the people in your life to make you happy or provide comfort.  The measure of how happy we live Is our own responsibility and how capable we are to choose to be happy no matter what our circumstance are by living in complete gratitude for everything.

 

“Forget the mistake but remember the lesson,” this quote is very important something we should remind ourselves to do daily, simply because a lot of the times we allow our mistakes or what we consider to be failure in our life to continue to dictate who we are being and how we get through each day. Making the conscious effort to focus on the bigger picture and seeing the good in everyday no matter how much we may have struggled is freeing and self-empowering, only focusing on the negative and what we wish for is dis-empowering. What happened has already happened what we have now is now and that is all we can focus on and the only moment we do have control of. Centering my thoughts and setting my intentions daily to focus on gratitude all day especially first thing in the morning has be become a lifestyle for me and a non- negotiable. Why first thing in the morning because that is the time of the day where our mind is most vulnerable and when we can decide on what type of day we want to have. Training our minds to focus on the good does not mean we are blind or in denial to struggles or adversities, remaining positive does not mean that life is perfect it simply means being in control of our emotions, our desires to react or complain about the things we cannot change.

 

When you can choose between being stuck or flowing choose to flow and how we flow best is to choose to live in the present with a grateful heart and mindset. A shift in our life can only occur if there is a shift in our mind, and our attitude towards each day.  Me secret is the moment I open my eyes I am instantly excited about the day and seeing my husband and daughter is the icing on the cake. There are a lot of things we can be thankful from the heat in our home, hot water to shower, a good night’s rest, they may seem small but when you think about the fact that there are people that would be happy just to have that. Take nothing for granted and stop stressing over the little stuff everyday someone loses a loved one, someone is diagnosed with an illness, people are facing high levels of unfortunate circumstances does not make your circumstance not valid on the difficulty scale it just helps you to appreciate the fact that it could be worse. The next time you think about complaining take a second to say thank God I am alive, I am well, I have a home, and I can create new today. I am grateful for all that I have all that I have lost, all that I am about to receive and the challenges I must encounter to learn from, growth through and glow.