Outliving Our Circumstances

When I was eleven years old, I migrated from Jamaica where I was born and raised to the united states of America where life as I knew it was over and new life began.  I had to adapt and adjust to what was to become the new normal, now today as an adult I think about how as a child we naturally can be flexible when it is necessary. We are disciplined for a few reasons one being we may not have had a choice or any control and secondly trusted our parents about what was best for us. Today my question to myself and everyone is, today as you are why are we afraid to adapt and adjust to do what is best for us? We all have dreams that we allow to sit on the side line every time life is happening instead of analyzing the things that are out of our control, focus on what is working for us to   adapt and adjust to make it happen.  Why are we so quick to complain and claim defeat before taking a second to think and retreat with forward planning? simply taking the lesson out of the adversity and being flexible to keep going with a new plan and focus.

We are now adults that are responsible for creating the life we desire and taking the necessary actions to see our dreams come to life, it is our job to decide on what is best for us and no matter how difficult the shift is being flexible to the change. The truth is our purpose is something that is within us it is not something we have to search to find, our purpose is something we must discover within ourselves. Therefore, the experiences and challenges we face does not have the power to change   your dreams or kill your vision, we are in control of our vision not our circumstances.   We must be willing and able to not allow outside forces to influence or allow us to settle for less or mediocre results because it is a less challenging choice. “Anything worth having is worth fighting, and nothing good ever came easy”, the thing that we must make sure is clear when we begin our journeys is our why. The why is what is going to continue to motivate us to work for it, the bigger the why the bigger the drive to push forward no matter what, secondly being aware of the cost of not achieving this goal.

“I Am Not A Product Of My Circumstances,
I Am A Product Of My Decisions.”

The issue for a lot of us is we spend so much time focusing on all the life circumstances that can limit or stop us from ever getting started, the reality is they can only stop us if we allow it. “where there is a will, there is away “invest time in researching and getting the proper knowledge and resources you need to get started.  The first step is to be clear on who you truly are and making sure that your purpose is you and not just a grand fantasy because chasing the wrong thing or the thing that everyone else sees for your life will always lead you to a dead end leaving you leaving feeling lost and unfulfilled. To be good at something does not mean that it is your purpose because, true success comes with a level of fulfillment and peace that money cannot buy. Doing something simply because you love it without instant gratification or rewards, your rewards is in seeing your purpose bless someone else’s life not only yours when seeing other people win is important to you.  Today I am encouraging each and everyone reading this is to outlive your circumstances   be flexible with adversities to adapt and adjust to remain focused on the vision. Your past does not determine your future, and your present circumstances is not your destination and is not meant to break us. use your moments of despair and frustration as ammunition to stay focused and apply pressure, remember to give birth to anything labor must come first.

Transformation Of The Mind Tuesday - Increase Your Faith

Believe in your magic and what God has written for your life. Believe that you are worthy of all tests that elevates you and challenges you to exercise your faith. You were created for this!

An Ounce Of Faith

“Faith Sees The Invisible
Believes In The unbelievable
And receives The Impossible. ”

March 4, 2017 was the day I gave birth to life, but little did I know that was also the day I gave birth to new life for myself and that It was the beginning of something extraordinary. Motherhood for me was more than just learning to care for and love another human being it was about growing to become a woman that can be a bold example of being free, completely whole, and in love with life. Why because I often thought about my childhood and how hard my mother had to work which meant sacrificing time together sometimes. I knew that was not something I desired for myself or my child I knew that there was no better time than right now to choose me, choosing to live by any means necessary.  I knew that my life was slowly evolving but I also knew that I was going to make working on myself internally a priority. The struggle of searching for a job with continuous rejection letters   began to influence my confidence and I began to allow it to mean that I was not worthy.  I even began to look at my life that was a blessing as a failure I was afraid that all I would be was a stay home mother and house wife, which there is nothing wrong with that I just knew I wanted more.

Faith; my faith was something that I slowly was beginning to question because I just could not see the lesson in becoming a mother and not being able to help provide for my family.  It was not until the pattern continued for the first seven months that I had to sit myself down and to really see what the message or the blessing was I ignoring. I was ignoring it through complaining and frustration sometimes in life until you learn the lesson you will never elevate to the next level. For the first time I began to think about my life and the things I often dreamed about one thing that stood out was the big fact that I was living one of my dreams that I had been writing in my affirmation journal for two years prior.  I would write I am so happy and grateful now that I am a present full-time mother, I have been writing and speaking this vision into existence but when I received it, I was blindsided by my worry and frustration.  In that moment was when all the adversity I was facing finally made perfect sense and I got present that I was living one of my dreams and this is the time to create around that. My faith was the first level I focused on believing that God has a great plan for me and that with faith and action they will manifest.

I shared this today to say that life is a journey that has a lot of different stages, lessons, and things we must face in order to rise above our circumstances. Nothing in life absolutely nothing in life is by accident and it is not meant to break us, but without faith and focus we can easily be blinded by our frustration which will only keep us farther away from what we truly want and deserve. First have faith in God’s love for us and his divine timing and secondly have faith in yourself that you have the ability to do it all.  Last night my heart was filled with fulfillment and gratitude because if someone would have asked me two years ago could I imagine myself putting together an event and speaking for people I am not sure I saw that. The beauty of having faith, constantly working on yourself and committing to your purpose can make a huge difference in just a short year. The secret is to apply yourself daily, choose you daily, and love who you are and your entire journey the past, and the present. Evolve around the everyday struggles and adversities we face they are the stepping stones to the next level embrace them stumble if you must but never settle and never give up. In the darkest times is when our true self is at its best, believe in your divine being that you have what it takes to excel through every circumstance.

Renovating

Renovation is the act of renovating, synonyms like restoration, make over, and refurbishment just to name a few are all aligned with the act of renovating. My question today is how often are you renovating your space of creativity? what are some of the ways that you are committing to making the necessary changes in your life? So often we rely on the what got us where we are to keep us where we are long after, which is a false theory the truth is the world is always changing. New things are always evolving and just like the changes in the seasons excites everyone to get to cleaning and adjusting or improving the appearance and value of their homes, we should possess the same energy in our vision.  Meaning that it is ok to reinvent yourself and never be afraid to make yourself more valuable in the market place. It is not about how many people are doing what you do. What matters is what kind of magic are you bringing to the table that makes you stand out aside from everyone else.

There is nothing super natural about someone living in their purpose we all can live a purpose filled life, it is all in the choices we make, just like they believed they could and put in the work needed so can we. The problem is not everyone is ready to commit most people are afraid of commitments, anything that requires responsibility and working on themselves can feel bit intimidating at first. We all must take time to put our mind and lifestyle under construction when necessary, just like a car needs its oil changed and yearly maintenance to remain up to date so do we. This is the same concept with life we must be mindful of how we treat out bodies, how much time we invest in fueling our minds, how often are we making it a priority to remain up to date and sharpening our skills to become more valuable. The reality is that most people are not practicing or investing the time needed to work on themselves internally to elevate and become the best versions of themselves. Instead they rely on the thought of a job security or the things they already know as a security blanket, in which they believe that if they stay between those boundaries everything is good.

God is without fear and without limits, the fact that we were created by him I believe he has also blessed us with the ability to be fearless and limitless. We may not have actual wings strapped to our backs to fly but what we do have is the ability to create anything we put our minds to. Living in our purpose is the closest we will get to feeling like we are flying. It is almost like flying without wings, or at least that is the feeling I get when I am working harder on myself and my dreams.  I dare you to close your eyes just for a minute and take a leap a faith, trust God and believe in yourself. If you never tried how will you know how great you are, how will you know what getting up feels like if you never fall, and most importantly when will you start living for you and loving yourself more than the comfort of where you are now. The choices we make in the way we live our lives, the things we accept is one of the highest forms of self-love. I challenge everyone reading today to do more of what heals you on the inside, do more of things that brings you joy, if you can dream it pray about it have faith and create it. Always set your sights on aiming higher and putting yourself under construction annually.

“The Road To Success Is Always Under Construction.”

Let's Play & Create

“Play is the highest form of research” Albert Einstein, did you know that when we make time for laughter and relaxation our creative skills are enhanced?  Why is that the older we get we create this false theory that we are too old to play, let our hair down, or access the kid inside. life is not meant to be taken personal or to be filled with limited thoughts and actions that prevents us from truly living our best life and being free. Surprising to most making time to play, laugh, or do things out of our normal routine is needed for not only kids but especially for adults dealing with everyday life. When we make time to play, we are more in tune with our imagination our sense of belief is at high and the feeling of fear is non-existent. If fear is absent and our level of belief is high there is nothing we cannot create, if we continue to eliminate or avoid the key to manifestation what does life really mean to us. Life without an imagination or goals is simply one existing daily with no direction or enthusiasm for life, ask yourself this can you really afford to never experience your true purpose in life?

Life has a mysterious way of guiding us but if we are so busy taking life personal and being closed off from relaxing the mind and allowing moments of play for your imagination to be free, we miss the message that was designed to guide us not discourage us.  I was once like that and every now and again I must remind myself it is time to do something out of the norm or doing something that allows my imagination to be free. I know when it is time reset usually when my body is not responding according to my eating exercise, when I begin to have writers block, just to name a few the goal for me is to eliminate experiencing this by making time to be engaging freely and relaxed a priority. Making this a priority and not a in the moment type of commitment will do a lot for me mentally, physically, and creatively. allowing myself to go pass this limit is me setting myself up to be wound up and if I am not in tune at any moment I could explode.  How do I practice?  this by engaging in things that reconnect me with my youth and sharing it with my daughter, when I complete a great amount of work, I grant myself a break. During that break I engage in playing with my daughter and her toys, watching some of my favorite childhood cartoons with her, engaging in singing some of her favorite nursery rhymes and alphabet songs.  This does two things for me it creates a sense of joy and excitement, and most importantly I get to build a bond with my daughter and spend quality time basking in her love and joy.

Being a stay home mother, it is more convenient for me to create this for myself because being a present mother for my baby is my motivation and reminder. If you are not a mother or a stay at home mother, there is a challenge that you must make it your duty to make this a priority. Taking on this challenge does not only benefit you, but it benefits the people connected to you, people are not looking for perfection from each other they prefer authentic genuine love and happiness.  Before this year ends, I challenge and encourage everyone reading to schedule time to allow the kid in you to enhance your creative senses allow yourself to be free in love and laughter. In our imagination is where our purpose is found, and fear is does not exist, without fear and with faith is how we will be able to connect to our highest level of consciousness. We cannot afford to let the guiding messages of the universe be in vain by our perception created by frustration and no clarity in what we truly are capable of. Do not allow your age and failure to play be the reason you never live the life you deserve, live and learn, Play and create   anything you desire.