Being Content

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I became a mother at the age of twenty-three I will say the day I became a mother was the day my life changed for the better. I grew internally I felt this strong feeling of contentment in my spirit most would describe it as maturing but it is possible to be mature and not content at the same time. I was always a little more advance mentally than my age, but this feeling was very new and the more I embraced it the more I began to fall in love with the simple things in life. I do believe that there are multiple stages that we all go through before we learn to understand who we are and our true purpose in life.  The beauty about life is that it does not matter how long you believe it will take to get there, understand that nothing can ever happen before time. Our duty is to our heart learning that through every experience to always allow your heart to guide you do only what you love and what makes you happy first.

 

Being content does not mean that you lack determination or having goals for your life it simply means you have grown to a place where you are aware that you are all that you need and that everything outside of ourselves are just accessories and not a necessity. In the past whenever, holidays or my birthday was near I always felt like I had to have a list of things I needed that would make me happy for the moment and I just had to have them.  Today I find myself drawing a blank every time I am asked what I would like to have, I say this humbly in my heart if I was to ask for some extravagant gift It would be inauthentic.  My only request is time, to invest more time with the people I love engaging in laughter and play fills me with so much joy I cannot think of any gift that can be better than that.  The greatest gift for me was the blessing to become a mother experiencing a healthy and happy pregnancy the more I dwell on how grateful I am for these simple but magical and irreplaceable moments in my life the less I want.  The only thing I truly desire is seeing my purpose bless and inspire a lot of lives, if I touch one person each day that is all I need to keep living in my purpose that God has blessed me with.

““Having An Attitude That Says I Will Be Satisfied With What God Has Given Me , Is Being content .””

I share this to say our life can be as peaceful as we make it to be by losing the spirit of needing to have everything when you already have what you need within, the simple things become more, and we are able to be present and grateful at all time. life will take you for a ride just to reveal your strength and what really matters our job is to go through each storm coming out with a lesson and a blessing. The more we focus on growing internally, we learn to love and appreciate who we are and the more present we are power to align ourselves with our internal source.  I encourage everyone to take a second to do review your life to   get present to how far you have come, all that you have endured, overcame, and get clear with how much all those things led you right where you are today. Think about how to live without allowing your past struggles to be in vain, focus on being happy and grateful for everything, everyone it is all a part of our self-journey to becoming the best version of yourself. When you are content and in love with who you are and the power you have inside, life becomes fun simple and magical try not to complicate it, by seeking validation and happiness instead of choosing happiness today right where you are.

A Beautiful Pillar Of Strength

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This last week I have spent time just being present with myself and how blessed I am, we all are blessed even when it seems like there is no way around the rough times. When I look at my mother, I see beauty   but when I think about her journey, I see strength an incredible amount of strength. The irony is although she is beautiful, she never allows her external beauty to define her or strop her from being afraid to go through the swamps and gutters to ensure that her kids and herself is taken care of. Her ability to remain true, kind and a loving being to others through her scars her beauty within shines from within. When a woman’s only focus is their external beauty and relying only on that we lose sight of just how valuable we truly are and what we are capable of. Beauty will fade over time life is not about having a beautiful face it is about being beautiful internally and not being afraid to be a beautiful example of strength, courage and faith, allow there to be more than meets the eye.  In this life people will only respect you when you demand the type of respect you deserve and display for yourself without arrogance. Nothing good in life comes easy and we are more than just a face and a body we are divine beings created by an infinite God that expects nothing but greatness from each and everyone of us because he blessed us all with a great purpose to fulfill.

 

Today in this current state getting more surgical procedures done to enhance one’s physical appearance instead of taking care of their bodies. They believe that doing this makes them more attractive and that any guy would be lucky to have them, without realizing that you can have the most beautiful face and appealing body but with substance or a good attitude it means nothing. A man will only enjoy you for a moment until what they truly want in a woman presents itself, a lot of the time women will say things like “if you cheat on me please let it be someone that looks better than me.” The reason why it should offend you is not because you believe you look better it should offend you because, the reality is it is not about what she looks like it has everything to do with who she is that he is attracted. The time spent tearing down another woman invest time to ask questions to understand the difference between physical beauty and being a beautiful soul.  You can Be the most beautiful woman in the world, have the highest level of education, the highest paying career, and all the finest things in life but without a higher level of consciousness and the ability be humble and kind it means nothing.

 

“Your Beauty Is Your Strength .”

Women have the power to be amazing, loving, and beautiful beings with the right mindset and pure intentions, on the other hand some choose the love of their external beauty and all their accomplishments to define them and dictate their attitude and actions towards others. With that level of thinking you are not as strong as you can be, and you are not as amazing as you were created to be everything is only a superficial belief at surface level. I encourage all my ladies today to dig a little deeper love yourself beyond what you see and be humble with everything you have accomplished in life. The appearance of perfection is an unrealistic way of living peace and happiness can only be present in our life when we are operating from our true self and being authentic. We are stronger than what we believe, and we have more to offer than a beautiful face and an attractive body appealing to the eye.  Invest some time in reclaiming your power and loving you enough for the world to love and respect you like you deserve, be kind and loving always and that will come right back to you. Be a beautiful pillar of love and humility, get present with the strength you possess always remember you are who you are being and not what you do or acquire along the way.

Reclaim Your Power

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“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone,” most people’s biggest setback in life is being comfortable even when that place of comfort is toxic and benefits them in no way. It is very common for most of us to   remain in a place of familiarity than to step out into the unknown because of fear, we must decide whether our fear is greater than the love we have for ourselves or is our love for ourselves greater than fear.  As women it becomes second nature to make sure that everything and everyone around us is well taken care of without ever taking a second thought about our own well-being.  Especially when in a relationship some women associate losing themselves for a great expression of love for their significant other, without ever recognizing that are deserving of so much more.   The problem is not that this is demanded by the people in their life, this behavior stems from a lot of things such as, learned behaviors, stereotyped expectations placed on women, and lastly but most important the lack of love growing up which became a lack of self-love and not knowing one’s value.

I believe that it is not only important but beneficial for women to make sure that they are well not only physically but mentally, and emotionally. It is unreal to be everything for anyone else when you are lacking self-acceptance and the ability to be everything for yourself. It is unrealistic to give what you do not have it just become actions of approval because, deep down inside the constant giving wears us down when we fail to pour into ourselves first.  This is very common cycle for most women, giving more than they can afford to give is self-defeating. In order to take back their power by tapping into what we already have access to, the first step is investing time with self. The second step is to begin to love yourself with a clear understanding that we are not lacking anything we have what it takes to be amazing but only through self-acceptance and self-love will we create this.   A few years ago, that was me when I met my husband, I was just getting out of a relationship that was very toxic and I was that girl doing everything to be enough for someone else, I forgot to leave some for myself.  My husband was like a breath of fresh air but even though he was everything that I wanted the timing was not right I was not ready. As a result of that there was a point in our relationship after dating for two and a half years, we went our separate ways for six months. This was very hard because the insecurity in me feared him meeting someone else but underneath I still had faith that what is for me will be for me.

 

That was the best decision we could have ever made it was beneficial to both of us because during that time I began to attend group work outs and attending events that were all focused on personal development and wellness. I fell in love with the feeling and I learned that the secret to reclaiming my power was by committing to loving myself a hundred a percent by taking care of my body, and my mind. The amazing irony was during that time my husband who was boyfriend at the time took time to learn a lot about him and even began to take care of his body and health serious. When we decided to come back together, we were both in a different space mentally and physically, I was now capable of loving him because I had mastered the art of loving myself first, becoming confident, and having self-respect. In return he learned to love and respect me because of who I was being, people can only love and respect you at the level of love and respect you give to yourself.  This was only possible because I had the courage to reclaim my power that I allowed to be taken from me. I shared this today to say just because something or someone may be right for you if you gain access to it at the wrong time you will never see the true magic of what it is meant to be. Have faith in God and believe in your divine purpose of who you were created to be, self-healing comes when self-love is present and intentional.

“It Is Now Time To reclaim Your Power You Have Always Had It.
-Shelly Sullivan ”

Strength Over Scars

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“The strength of a woman can carry the weight of the world and remain a nurturing gem to the world and the people she loves.” The beauty about a woman is more than appearance it is about her ability to remain confident even when she does not have all the answers, she manages to be the glue to that holds everything and everyone together when needed. I am very blessed and grateful for the strength of my mother, being present to her effortless ability to make it happen by any means necessary has always been inspiring.   Being a woman is a job in itself but being a mother and a nurturer to the world is a unique role because no matter what our love and strength over comes all.  I have been blessed to connect with a lot of women with some amazing stories that listening them broke my heart but seeing how they overcame these experiences better than before is one of a kind.   Even when we do not have all the answers to life, we have the understanding that love solves all and heals all wounds.

“You Are Stronger Than you Believe.”

 

The very things that makes us who we are a lot of the times are the very things that were meant to break but instead became the foundation that helped us realize our strength.  I was once a victim of molestation at a very young age and for years there were things that I grew up fearing, including the courage to share this with anyone. I was embarrassed and deep down even though I was only nine years old I carried this burden for years, the older I got I learned that this was bigger than me. I met a lot of woman that shared similar experiences some more severe than others, they were not afraid to share in order to set others like myself free. It set me free because I could not believe how brave and how transparent they were to share their pain that in return help someone else heal was a blessing to receive and witness. The one thing I heard from a very wise woman was when she said, “I share because this burden is not my own to carry, I was no longer taking responsibility for someone else’s actions, neither will I allow them to mean anything about me.” For years I felt as though I was tainted and told myself that I was damaged, all it took was the strength of a woman to share her truth that inspired me to free myself to no longer carry this weight with me anymore loving myself was the only choice I had in order to heal.

 

Another pivotal moment in life for women I believe is motherhood, it is one of the most beautiful and life changing experience that is also a great risk, the pain we endure, and the changes our body goes through during and after does not come with instructions.  One of my fears from being raised by a single mother and knowing women that experienced this, was that I never wanted to experience this by myself. I had the honor of meeting a beautiful young lady that shared how the last two years after having her child being a very depressing time for. The depression was not due to her beautiful baby it was due to the lack of appreciation and verbal abuse by her husband, it is possible to be alone even when there is a significant other involved in their life physically but are emotionally absent and lacking compassion.  Her ability to be all that her baby needed during the midst of this was more than inspiring to me. I connected to her on another level when she said to me “I am committing to myself because this is my time to find myself and begin loving myself again. Just like that she reclaimed her herself and began living in her truth and loving herself like she deserves to be. The love for her child even when she did not have the strength to love herself was enough to keep her going until enough became enough and she was sick and tired of being sick and tired.  I shared this to say that there was no mistake made when God created a woman and we must always remember that we are soft and nurturing beings with strength that cannot be measured. I am encouraging all the women reading today to love yourself first and understand that We can carry the weight of the world on our shoulders and still stand with our heads held and remain nurturing and loving.