Communication Skills

“No Relationship Can Prosper Without Proper Communication . And You Can’t Be The Only One Communicating.”

The key to any good relationship is communication, without the skill to freely express how you are feeling to each other that is a recipe for a failure in any relationship. Most people mistake communication for a debate or a disagreement   for one or two reason, sometimes they may not be in a space to receive what’s being said or acting in ego and feeling entitled to their reaction.  There is an art to having open and effective communication by simply being mindful, it is not what you say it’s how you say it and in some cases it’s about timing.  We must all be very mindful and aware of our intention in the heat of the moment, by being able to identify if you are coming from a place of love and authenticity or are you operating from a space of anger and ego to retaliate and cause hurt.  This is extremely important to be mindful of great relationships have failed due to people attempting to communicate through anger and their ego, things are said that are not meant from the heart but it cuts the other person deep.  Depending how hurtful the statement is some may never be able to forgive, some will forgive and move on without continuing the relationship.

Our perception is everything because most times It all about how we are feeling about someone that determines how we receive what is being said.  To communicate and being in harmony and love we must always be sure to that we are open and unentitled to our reason to be upset. Operating with love and respect for each other is not only important but beneficial in the long run because, relationships are not perfect but love and respect is the glue that keeps it together. Once that is lost or compromised it becomes close to impossible to reconnect and move forward. Our language is that one thing that makes or breaks our relationships with not only people but even the relationship with ourselves and the universe. If we speak a language of negativity, hate, lacking, and unloving that is just what we will attract in our relationships with others, and relationship with our self and future endeavors.  

The reality is life is not perfect, people are not perfect, and the less perfection we expect and begin to open our minds to being understanding   to all circumstances we face daily is when we begin to eliminate conflicts in our life. The beauty of communication is not that it eliminates problems it simply creates room for more peaceful and loving interactions in the world and within us. learn to communicate what we need to ourselves to be better communicators, and with much practice we learn how to respectfully communicate with others. You can be your authentic self and not cause a conflict or a dispute mindfulness is, to think before we speak, analyze the situation before we jump into reactive mode.  Treat others as we would have them treat us always remember the way we treat others reflects how we treat our selves. I encourage everyone to invest more time engaging in open and loving communication with each other and always operating from a place of love no matter what.

Transformation Of The Mind Tuesday- Taking Responsibility For Our Own Happiness

You will only be happy with someone else when you are truly happy with you . No one can love you better than you can love yourself. It is our responsibility to give ourselves the love,respect , and commitment we deserve first before we can give that to some one else , and before we can expect it from anyone else. Treat yourself with tender love and care that you can give it and recieve .

understanding love

Love is a beautiful thing when two people are able to connect on  higher level beyond just physical connection it is easy to love , the real challenge is meeting each other where you are.  Most times people already have this vision and idea of their dream guy/woman and the ideal relationship , and life they want to live. This is only a bad thing when we are able to compromise , not getting so cought up in our ideal reality that we try to change the person to fit into the picture we created.  Love is not  a frame that you just take a picture and find the right picture our person to fit in between the margins.  When we make the decision to be in a  relationship with someone we must always be mindful of a few things , the first thing to be mindful of is that you are both two separate individuals with your own unique way of being.  It is important to always maintain your own individuality and still be able to connect in love and harmony, no one should ever feel like they have to lose their self to fit in to your ideal image.

The second thing to be mindful of no one is perfect and no relationship is perfect what we must do from the beginning is identifying what are some of the things we  absolutely are not willing to compromise ,  and what are some of the things we all willing to adjust to.  The best way to identify this from the beginning is looking beyond the physical appearance , their  title and  focus on  each others core belief’s and desires . By doing so we are able to identify how well we can co-exisist and grow together  as a two individuals on our own journey creating a  path to true success and happiness together.  It is very important to be selfless and open to each others differences ,  with different personalities it is unlikely that we will agree on every thing .  What we can agree on is being respectful and understanding to each other’s points of view  without disregarding  each others feelings .

“A Great Relationship Is About Two Things, First, Find Out The Similarities , Second, respect The Differences. ”

To conclude the last thing we must be mindful of is the foundation of the relationship a lot of times how we start something  is usually what sets the tone for how it  flows. What are your core beliefs or fundamentals   that will be enough to withstand the tests that you will face , when I love you is just not enough , when physical intimacy is not enough.  If you are seeking a short term enjoyment  there is no need to  go beyond the physical assets, but always remember never go into any relationship blindly or for the wrong reasons and intention.  Having the relationship that looks good on the outside  and tainted behind close doors will only   work for a short period ending in some cases on a bad note  that can be avoided. Being true to yourself first  and true to  what each person desire with respect ,love , and understanding.  I encourage everyone  reading today before you start your journey of love be clear and have a level of love and respect for yourself that you will not compromise for the companion of another, secondly be prepared to compromise some things while creating  a new life with your partner .

Unbounded Beings

“I come from greatness, I attract greatness, I am greatness”, have you ever taken a moment to be present in the mystery of the creation of life on earth?  The idea that we all begin as a tiny egg that took nine months to develop before entering the world from an infinite source. A source so powerful that created all things and all beings, without any certainty outside of the simple fact that one day we all return to the source from which we came. With that knowledge and understanding I ask do we really understand the true meaning of living without limits?  With the understanding that we are only here for a short time and we one day we will leave this world and this body. Will you continue to live only in the limits of our physical self or can we find the courage to live in our spiritual state?  In the spiritual form we can go as high as we desire, as far as we envision, and be as vibrant as we feel we are free and unbounded in that state of mind.

We all have faced moments in our lives that we make ourselves prisoners to our physical form which makes us unable to be inspired and inspirit. We continue to add limitations and boundaries around our dreams and the quality of life we live, in the long run we will be the one singing that sad should have, could have. would have song. We all have a responsibility in this life and that is to find your purpose and be bold and selfless enough share with the world, the only way we can truly do this is by setting ourselves free. Freeing ourselves, mentally and allowing our imagination to work allowing our creative juices to flow, by being mindful of the lifestyle we live, the things we put into our body and the activities we take part in. The more time we spend living in our conscious state and being mindful of who we are being, the easier it is to create the life we desire and attain the ability to live a happy and fulfilled life.  Our dreams are not a spirit of the moment our true desires come from our purest form which is our youth.

“Affluence ,Unboundedness , And Abundance Are Our Natural States . We Need Only To Restore What We Already Know .”

Life is a journey it can be a long and fulfilled road or a long and grueling journey it is all determined by us, the thoughts we produce daily and the energy we surround ourselves with daily is a key factor in the life we have. Life can also be an exciting path if we fill our thoughts we love, excitement, adventures, and courage to be present in every moment and living in our imagination without fear or concern of approval. Become one with nature connect with the creation of life and understanding that we are infinite beings the body is just a vessel that stores a soul but in spirit we can transcend without limits. I had an experience just a week ago as I was present in a room with a dying angel I saw the spirit exit her body and her lifeless body laid but her calm spirit was felt in the room, which was an amazing feeling but always a great reminder in such a moment of sadness to live a life of quantity.  Set your mind and your intentions on dreaming as big as you want and soaring through the roof.  Our spirits are meant to soar leave all your baggage and worries behind for the road we are destined to be needs no heavy burdens to bear.

Unapologetic Words Of Courage- QT With Self

The relationship with our self is the most important relationship in our life second to God. If we are unclear and unaware of who we are and what we need we are no good to anyone else or any other relationship . It begins with us practicing selflove, knowing , and understanding ourselves.Set some very needed time aside to connect with your trueself.