Spiritual Growth

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Spiritual health is the path to inner peace regardless of the turmoil around you, the first few weeks of post pregnancy   was really dedicated to resetting and growing mentally by creating a shift in my mindset. However often I still felt this void as if something was missing and, what I discovered was missing was my spiritual connection. My spiritual connection with myself which is separate from a religious belief or practice, I needed to find my inner peace and self-acceptance.  I have always heard of all the things women can go through after child birth and I will say this until you have experienced this for yourself respect the process and give nothing but love and compassion to a woman post pregnancy. It is extremely important to be surrounded by genuine love and support, if that is currently present in your life truly be grateful for it this is in any life changing circumstances not just after child birth, not everyone is blessed to have this.

I was going through emotional battles not feeling beautiful, not feeling worthy, and sometimes disappointed, I was disappointed because the little kid in me still held on to these high expectations of my father. This was not a new hurt but I guess this time I just hoped it would be different for my baby girl, I prayed that he would bridge the gap from being so disconnected to connect with her like I wish he would have with me. I invested time in working on accepting my father for who he is, but I always had hope   that one day things could be different and so my spirit was broken when my baby girl arrived.  Some days are harder than some and some days I just cried and I believed that I would not be able to get over this feeling.  The more I dwell in this the less motivated I felt, even when I pushed myself to go my body was not responding how I wanted it to, it was then I knew I had to do something different. I knew I would have to work on my spiritual growth if I expected to look and feel better on the inside ad out.

 

“The connection between what you and who you are being is the reflection of your spiritual growth”

  The first step I took to was to  work on loving myself  as a whole ,  to believe that I was enough and  accepting that my fathers actions had nothing to do with me  but everything to do with himself.  I had to focus on loving the process, accepting what is and continue to practice self-healing. Restoring my peace was my goal not only for myself but for my family I did not want to be perfect but I needed to be at peace and be happy.  I started taking on a lot of peaceful strategies and the ones I have fell in love with are meditation and yoga. These things do not assure me that life is perfect, it helps me to connect with my inner self which is peaceful and I am able to connect with my peaceful state of being. By committing to these actions, I have grown into complete awareness and increased my level of consciousness. I encourage everyone to really get present with the idea of being healthy in your mind and in your spirit before we can truly be good at anything else.  We should always no matter what we are faced with commit to working harder on ourselves than we do anything else, spend less time problem solving more time self-evolving. You are worth it and you deserve peace, love, and happiness.

 

 

 

Evolving Mentally

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 Transforming from being a young, free, and vibrant young lady, into a wife and a mother all at once was a lot to digest at first. One of my biggest fears was becoming a mother for multiple reasons I was not afraid of not being perfect, I was afraid because I understood the great measures of motherhood. I was clear that It required taking on a new mindset, practicing patience and taking on becoming resilient   more than ever before I could not afford to fail. The real question I asked myself of was “are you ready?”  I was not sure, but what I did know was that my life would never be the same. Today I am sharing transparently about my mental state of health coping with life as a new mother and how I was able to make the best of it all.  In the long run we only have ourselves to blame if we fail and every circumstance to be grateful when we succeed because with out tests we can never truly know our own strength.

 

The day I went into the hospital in labor I was in a very good head space mentally the best I would say, I was able to be in control and not allow the pain to take control. I focused on being calm while concentrating on my breathing because I had a goal for when that day came, I knew medicine was not an option for me so I made a promise to myself and my little girl that I was going to be strong.  March 4,2017 11:15 a.m. was a great blessing but pure confirmation on just how powerful the mind can be when we put it to work, we learn how strong we truly are when we condition our minds to accept and beat the odds.  After getting through one of the biggest challenges of my life or so I thought it was, I quickly learned that the real challenge was after delivery.  The sleepless nights, the aches, the swelling, I was beyond grateful for the experience, but I grew to be very unhappy with the way my body looked and how I felt.  I worried a lot about how my body was going to come back together, I was not feeling motivated to work out when the time came, and I was just busy rushing the process.  The truth is I had to learn and accept that I would never progress in that mindset I had to let go.

 

How I overcame my mental break down after child birth was to push myself to commit to be a better person than I was before. I committed to sharing my journey with the world no matter how uncomfortable I felt in those pictures , I invited others to join me on my journey   and I committed to being in service and accountable for their goals. What that meant was even when most days mentally  I was not motivated , I had to show up no matter what because it was bigger than just me  people were counting on me which helped me mentally to commit to each and everyone of us succeeding on our journey. I share this today to say that when it comes to our journey of health and wellness  being able to master  the mind and being in control  of your thoughts  we can achieve every and anything . I encourage you to get clear on where you are right now hit the refresh button and restart on a clean slate, get in alignment with like-minded people and get on a mission together. Put your mind to the test and fulfill your true desires.

 

 

Success Is Not Achieved By Luck

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“Success Is Not In what You Have But in Who You Are -Bo Bennett”

Some people believe success is achieved by accident or by luck and some people leave the possibility of being successful up in the air with a maybe it will happen, or it just was not in the cards for me. Whenever you have a second or a minute to ponder use it to visualize on what if? What if I really gave my all, what if I really committed to starting and never quitting would I then still say I got lucky. There are many definitions of success you have the dictionary definition and you have people’s own interpretation of success. The dictionary says success means: the accomplishment of an aim or purpose, the attainment of popularity or profit, and a person or thing that achieves desired aims or attains prosperity. My definition is creating a life I love living in my purpose that is bigger than me. I heard a unique break down of success on a morning podcast that I listen to every morning. He stated, “see your goal, understand the obstacles, create a positive mental picture, clear your mind of self-doubt, embrace the challenges, stay on track, and show yourself you can do it”. This made my entire day because these are all the things we should practice each day so in other words true success is doing the steps that takes you closer each day to living your best life.


Patience in our grind is what will help to prepare us for the level of success we aim to reach. When it all seems like it is taking too long to happen instead of counting and measuring the time begin to maximize your skills and concentrate on preparing our self mentally and physical to receive what is to come. We can never rush the process it is our map our guidance if we remain focus and embrace the time. We should focus on learning things that we will use forever we in this time we begin to learn things about our self, we begin to even find our own strengths. Because along the way a lot of things can and will happen that can cause self-doubt and even feeling over whelmed at times. One way to overcome that is really working on ourselves, our perspective on life, and how we handle adversities. Making sure we are always being grateful at all time when things are up and running and when things seem to be at a standstill. I am a firm believer that God never gives us more than we can handle understand that each adversity is simply just a test of our faith and a very necessary part of our growing process as a person. Never take the ever-changing life events personal welcome them, understand them, and learn from them as you take on your own journey to true success.