Maintaining Your Individuality

what does it mean to have a partner, when you hear that word what some of the things are you think about? a partner is having someone that is very opposite of yourself but in the grand scheme of things you both are able to balance each other out.  Having a partner for me is having some one that is my best friend, someone I can always count on without a doubt, someone who knows my ins and out and vice versa. There are two key factors I believe is important to have with your partner, the first is a mental and spiritual connection. The reason being is a physical connection is easy to take on but it’s also very easy to lose well. life is very unpredictable so when you choose someone as your life long partner there needs to be that level of connection that is deeper than a physical attraction.

“Relationships Are About Two Individuals Who Maintain Their Own Lives And Create Another One Together.”

The reason being the strength of your connection with someone is strongly tested when adversities are present.  It is important to develop that sense of security that hypothetically speaking, if you wake up tomorrow and the physical features of you that your partner loves should change they can they still love and value you the same. A mental and spiritual connection is key to a solid foundation. When things get rough and life isn't as sunny that together you both can stand strong, hold on and know that we are in this for the long run. Being two whole individuals vibrating and connecting on a higher level, learning and creating life together.

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 The second most important thing is| being able to maintain your own identity. It is a beautiful thing to unite with someone you can consider your life long partner. Be free with your love for your partner, but always remember to love and value yourself more than the title or the relationship. In life nothing is guarantee, people can change or worst-case scenario one day that person will no longer be here and vice versa.  Commit to always being independent with your life, what I mean by that is being able to go on with your life even if that person is no longer in your life. Be mindful that one does not define the other, avoid becoming the man or woman who have a hard time recognizing their image in the mirror.  Keep you at the fore front and be selfless in your being with that individual. Your every thought, your every move does not have to revolve around a title or your partner self-assurance is important. Once there is a balance and clear understanding between who you are and who your partner is and you both can be confident in each other’s own individuality. Love and respect each other mentally and spiritually together your relationship with your partner can flourish gracefully. love and support each other and remember to always put God first.

Transformation Of The Mind Tuesday- Be Selfless On Purpose

Your purpose is not about you it is bigger than self recognition , we were all given a purpose in life . Our mission is to find it and give it away we should always be open to being in service and not being too high to recieve someone else's blessings to us . We are all apart of one race there for no man or woman is more extraordinary than the other and together we are unstoppable forces . Let us be intentional about coming together in love and creativity being inspired by each other .

Fall In Love With You First

 We will be as happy as we decide to be there is no human being or material things that can give you happiness or make you complete. There are multiple reasons as to why relationships fail and both parties in the relationship is either dissatisfied or unhappy.  A lot of the time people often associate being in love or in a relationship as the root of them happens, and that finding some one they love is the puzzle piece they have been missing. With that mindset the relationship becomes their crutch and safe space, which can be dangerous because when adversities are present could be fatal. It could be fatal because of the expectation of perfection in this safe space. This type of responsibility is unfair to place on any one because some people are more committed to always being true to themselves than being busy assuring the other. The result of that leads to constant frustration and disappointment know this if you are not happy single you won’t be happy taken, happiness comes from within.

 The first step before getting into a committed relationship with some one is to do a mental self-evaluation, making sure that you are ok with you and not operating from a place of lacking. Be sure that if you were in a prior relationship before beginning a new be sure that you are complete and clear from that experience. Lastly making sure that you took some time to love and get to know you as a person and not by the things you have or do not have.  When the opportunity presents its self, you take the time to get to know the person you are getting involved on a mental level not only the physical attraction. Once the line of intimacy is crossed before you can identify if this is someone you are willing to love for them without your judgement being clouded by temporary enjoyment. If not, this could possibly become a short-lived situation. Take time to communicate to learn what you both are expecting to create together.

This does not mean that you or the person in the relationship will be perfect, these steps are just to avoid the problem that most people fall in love with the excitement and the idea of being in a relationship.  Without ever truly knowing if this is someone that they can love and accept, because you are not going to like everything about the person you are with but there must be a level of compromising and understanding. if who they are is not pleasing to you do not ignore that fact because you like the physical assets because later this will be very unfair to both. Why? Because after the physical attraction fades and real-life sets in it will begin to feel like one is trying to now change the other. This will cause confusion because the truth is they have always been this way you just were busy playing a blind eye because you were only focused on the temporary enjoyment.  My words of encouragement are before you take on loving someone else take some time to love you first and get to know you and your worth.  When you find someone take some time to get to know them before giving and compromising your values and peace just for the title or appearance to the world. Remember your happiness is not in the relationship or anyone else’s responsibility you are responsible to give yourself unconditional love and joy.

“Accept Your Self & Love Yourself ”

A Promise

 I am committed to living my best life ever a life filled with peace, joy, love, honesty, consistency, health and wealth. I promise to be obedient to God’s word I will move when he tells me to and sit still when he commands me to. For I know the plans he has for my life and I understand what he expects of me. I will walk by faith and not by sight, I will not be lead into temptation that compromises my peace and happiness. I will not live in the past I will forgive all that needs to be forgiven and let go of what no longer needs to be held on to. I will be honest with the people I love and most importantly honest with myself. I will make time to show the people in my life how much I love and appreciate them. I will dedicate time to love on myself more and commit to working on me. I promise to live a life that is pleasing to God and fulfilling to my soul. I will walk that walk and talk that for I understand that my life is not my own.  I will lead by example and not with my words my actions mean more than the words I speak.  I am grateful for my life and its entirety I am focused on being positive and growth nothing and no one can stop me on this mission of self-growth and empowerment. This I promise and in this I will live anything or anyone that is not in alignment can no longer be present on my journey. Yesterday is gone tomorrow is uncertain today is present I must start living whole and free. I promise to be better and never look back

Words Of Encouragement - You Were Made For This

You Were Made For This .From the moment we were concieved and long before we were thought of God already had a plan for us .Our story has already been written and our purpose is already within us. The moment we start believing, and trusting the process amazing things begin to unfold. Life is not perfect but God's plan for our life is .