Self-Discipline

Have you ever really noticed that when the end of the year is approaching or at the beginning of a new month is when most of us tend to always have a million excuses, and everyone else to blame but our self as to why we didn't accomplish specific goals in the time anticipated. In my experience I believe that no one is responsible for us getting things done but us, how can we say we are eliminating people or because of this person I was not able to get the things we really want done. We all can get things done the problem is majority of the time we lack self -discipline we fail to prioritize our days and our time and commit to fulfilling our agreements with our goals. We often tend to allow our phones, friends or family to distract us, it is up to us to set up boundaries and rules around our goals. If you have a goal that is very important to you and the cost of not accomplishing it is too high to risk it, this is the time you make the choice to sacrifice the things or people that is necessary to get this task done. Being disciplined is as simply as you are making just a choice of what you want now or what you want more.

This is something that everyone struggles with at one point or another in our life it takes practice and the changing of our mindset. I am also guilty of this I am a lot better today than I was in the past, I kept practicing until I saw progress the beauty is that I am still growing each day, understand that we will never get it right over night. It was a big struggle for me especially my hours set aside to work, if a family member or friend called me during that time I would always stop to answer my phone or respond to a text. I even struggled at times to avoid checking social media in between. I justified these behaviors by telling myself I was good at multitasking, when I was just pulling myself in too many directions all at once. The results I got from that was pure frustration and disappointments because I was not giving a hundred percent of my attention to the task I set out to do. My thoughts were now controlled by outside forces, the lesson I learned was that I will never complete anything if I continued to work like that. So, what I started to take on was restoring my energy and setting my intentions before I started doing anything productive. I must make sure my energy and my thoughts are clear. I committed  to  praying  first then I take a moment to sit in silence and listen to my inner guiding spirit. I then take about twenty minutes to read something of substance and beneficial to my mind, I refrain from any negative conversations or negative activities remember negative thoughts bring forth negative results.

“We Are What We Do Repeatedly Do, Excellence Then Is Not An Act But, An Habit ”

Setting rules and boundaries around your goals is not to be rude to anyone it is to keep ourselves on track with what we must get done. It is about making sure that the people that are important in your life have a clear understanding of what you are doing and what you need from them. It is okay to even set up time slots and put it out there from this time to this time I will not be answering phone calls, texts, or social media alerts. Once you set up your mind that whatever you are doing at any moment that is your only focus you are now holding yourself accountable and being responsible for your goals. If you do not get it done there is no one to blame but yourself and if the people in your lives cannot respect your boundaries they are no longer a necessary piece to the puzzle. It is our duty to live on purpose in our purpose everyone will not make it. The conversations we have the things we partake in has a lot to do with the thoughts we have and how we work. My challenge for us is to be deliberate about our work when it is work time we are giving a hundred percent to work so that when it is family time or time to relax, we can enjoy these things without the worry of what you didn't get finished or trying to do both at once. All success begins with self-discipline it begins with you.

Transformation Of The Mind Tuesday- Accept What Is & Create What Is Possible

Be apart of the solution do not be apart of the problem , be a living example of what is possible. Take action to be the change you desire in the world and invite people to join you on a mission instead of making them wrong. Everyone is capable they just have to be ready and willing to learn and apply.

The Journey Is yours

It is very easy to get caught up in complaining and only focusing on all the flaws and things we expect from the people present in our lives instead seeing what a blessing they are.  Did you know that we can create anything we want for our lives? often I always hear people and even in my own experience feeling defeated or discouraged because they feel like the black sheep of their family, or the misunderstood friend.  New solves all and if you are not doing anything to change the things that you do not like then you become apart of the problem.  It is possible to create family like bonds with people you are not biologically related to, it is possible to create a sisterhood, or brotherhood with someone that is not your biological brother or sister.  The truth is no one owes us anything and no one is obligated to do anything for us, we can hope for the best but always be open to all possibilities and be ready to accept and move forward.

When we make the decision to get started on our journey history has proven that in the beginning most of the time   family and close friends are some of the last people to join you or support you.  If we can condition our mind to that simple fact the easier it becomes to lose that excuse of false expectations. These false expectations and responsibilities we assign to people that did not ask for it is the number one dream killer. We allow ourselves to feel disappointed and give ourselves permission to quit because we do not have the support we desire and from the people we would love to be apart. What you do is your choice and what you do not do is also your choice, the why’s are just to validate our lack of self-belief by blaming it on others.  Everyone was assigned a purpose the moment we were born which will only manifest when we put in the work to create it.

“Believe In Yourself Enough To Glow ”

 Complaining and dwelling is simply a waste of time and we are only doing ourselves a disservice, everyone will not understand or receive your vision until you are brave enough to understand that your mission and true purpose is up to you to create. No one’s opinion or doubt matters because if you are willing to remain committed   and consistent any and everything is possible. Always remember that we have the power to create to win or complain and fail, focus only on the things we can control and learn from the things we cannot.  The less energy we waste on discouraging thoughts the more energy we have to invest into what is important. I want everyone reading today to ask yourself how important your purpose is and what are you willing to sacrifice to attain it or are you willing to sacrifice your vision seeking validation.  Go out each day on a mission to create, live, love, and glow unapologetically. Your purpose is your peace live in the moment and stand confident in what you believe in.

Crunch Time

“Start Where You Are. Use What You Have.Do What You Can”

I am the type of person that the moment I say I want to get something done I have to do it in the same moment the thought is present because, if I don’t act in the moment I have given myself too much procrastination time. Meaning I gave myself too much time to come up with my own reasoning as to why I can wait or reschedule for another time. I recently learned something called the first five second rule it is said that after planning we have five seconds to act on it before our mind begins to rethink or procrastination kicks in.  How many of you guys often catch yourself doing that? I have gotten a lot better with this over the last few years, but I am still a working progress and every so often I fail at beating my mind. Something that I have taken on is planning not just any planning but planning effectively, in my planner I plan everything precisely down to the hour, the minute, and the second. By doing this I have no time to ponder or procrastinate because I have programmed my mind to focus and remain in crunch time, this means if too much time is wasted it is like a domino effect it can throw off my whole schedule. We must put ourselves on a strict procrastination and distraction diet, when it is work time it is work time when it is time to relax we are focused on doing just that. It generally helps me to stay organized and on track with my goals and things I want to accomplish within a certain time frame. This is very beneficial and a very important step to take on prioritizing your time daily especially when you work for yourself. Simply because it’s much easier to procrastinate because you are not so worried about getting fired our getting in trouble with your employer.  Remember your dreams will not work or create themselves we must put in the work.

A lot of the time this can hurt us in the long run in life, and in your business a lack of planning and self-discipline to stay on track can lead to a chaotic life and failure in business. How you show up in one area of your life is how you show up in all areas of your life. The goal is to set your schedule as the boss and then put on the employee hat and get to work. Practice makes progress and this is one of those tasks that requires a lot of practice and self-discipline. In life you have those people that this is second nature for them and you have those that need someone to hold them accountable or remind them of what to do and when to do it. That too is okay this does not mean you are less than a person that can, it just simply means we need to work harder on our personal growth and committing to the things we say we want. You want to be a boss you must think like one and act like one too, you want to be a punctual person in life we must plan effectively and strive to follow through.  Understand that some days you just won’t get it all done but try to set up a priority list even if it means only getting the little things done that takes you one step closer to a big goal. I challenge everyone to take on being specific with your time, your goals, and putting in the required amount of work to get it done leave no room for procrastination. Whether that’s giving yourself a daily, weekly, monthly, or a 90-day goal remember that even when planning for things to go well prepare for life events to take place and when it does do not get frustrated or discouraged acknowledge it and keep going the day is not over. FOCUS, FOCUS, FOCUS, and REMAIN ON CRUNCH TIME! Ultimately God has the final say it is important to commit your plans unto him and follow his lead

Wisdom Comes With Time

“All things get better with time “ , some people are afraid of aging because they assume it means being less abled. The term aging just means growing and with much time and growth comes great wisdom if we commit to really living and being present. We have nothing to fear but everything to gain, remember you are only as old as you feel or claim to be these are the golden years.