Patience= Greatness

“Patience Is The Calm Acceptance That Things Can Happen In A Different Order Than The One You Have In Mind.”

“Learning patience can be a difficult experience, but once conquered you will find life is easier.” I will be the first to admit that patience has been one my weaknesses and biggest challenge growing up. The breaking point for me was in learning that everything works according to God’s timing and in his divine order.  Often times on our journey we are very impatient and always in a rush for quick results. In that mindset we fail to recognize how blessed we all are and lose sight of what our purpose is. When you are living in your purpose you are challenged daily, not because you do not deserve to win but because your greatness requires strength and sacrifice. The beauty about facing adversities is in knowing that for every delay in our life it is an opportunity to learn new lessons and gain new blessings. Changing our perspective of our daily experiences and past struggles is the key to having a positive approach to becoming a solution-oriented person. Choosing to always see the good in every situation versus being a victim and a complainer is one of the many tools we all have access to.

 Exercising patience or changing how we react to life circumstances is present through growth, and growth is only possible when we are willing get uncomfortable and get out of our own way. I have learned through some of my own experiences that one of the reasons why I lacked patience was due to having a lack of faith. I would be so excited about a new venture or an idea that in the midst of planning I lose sight of who is in control of the end results. I would get so invested in my expectations I was unprepared for the unexpected. The moment there is a delay immediately I am discouraged, upset and begin to claim defeat. I begin to believe that there was something that I did incorrect why a delay is present, when the truth is every delay is God’s greatest and most mysterious way of guiding and teaching us. In these moments is where we are challenged to tap into our faith, allow ourselves to be patient and trust the process.

Every level we approach there are new tests and challenges that we must experience to grow. Patience is a very important part of our journey because it takes time to learn who we are, our purpose in life, and how God works when we walk in faith. I would be lying if I said that it is easy to be patient and always walk in faith, I would say it scary, but it is worth it. The purpose behind a delay and all of the adversities we face in our life is intended to be for a greater outcome. We all hope some days that life could be a lot easier, and at some point, we all hope life was smooth sailing. The reality is we were created to be extraordinary and when it comes to walking in your purpose the journey is long and challenging. Although very challenging when we are committed to being patient life is not challenge free what does happen is, we learn to flow in alignment. Trusting our process, not dwelling on adversities is how we begin to practice walking in our greatness patiently. Enjoy the journey, remain present, and learn to accept what is and letting go of the things we have no control of. Take everything to God in prayer be still and wait for his instructions. In every lesson learned there is always a blessing to receive. Every day we are blessed to experience life we learn something new about ourselves, which teaches us how to be calm in every season. Trust that what is for you will be for you, it does not matter how long you believe it is taking nothing will happen before its time and before you are ready to receive it. Commit your plans to God, be patient with your success but be aggressive with your drive. God's plan is always greater than our complaints instead of asking why me, ask yourself why not me.  We are all chosen and blessed with gift do great things.

A Mother's Fear

Have you ever been in a place in your life  where you find yourself  reflecting on your life and asking yourself if  where you are today is it where you want to be? Two years ago, I was in that exact space feeling lost and uncertain as I stepped into my life changing role as a new mother and a wife. I have always considered myself to be very independent and always prepared to take care of myself in any situation since the age of sixteen. The transition was scary and also very new for me I was now in a space where I had to give up who I was to become the woman I was destined to be. I learned that my life was no longer just about me or what I wanted, and my new responsibility was to be a nurturer. I have been blessed with the opportunity to be home with my angel full time. I loved every minute being present every time she cried, every time she smiled, and every time she needed to be fed. I was always proud and amazed by my strength and drive to provide for me, but being a mother has been more fulfilling for me than anything else in the world I cannot imagine any love greater. I always imagined that carrying another human being was special but after experiencing my first I would rather describe it as the most magical experience. Every time I look at her, I felt like I had given birth to my heart with the opportunity to physically protect and take care for.

“A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in this world”

Three months after giving birth to my baby girl was when reality set in when my current job position was no longer available for me to return as it promised to me. In the midst of my heart being filled with joy and gratitude, there were moments where I was filled with worry about how I planned to add value to my family. I had a lot of dreams and vision about being a phenomenal woman that my baby girl can be proud to call mother, a woman that my husband can be proud to call his wife. There were a lot of moments that the spirit of self-doubt and fear would creep in what I like to call the emotional distraction, something most people struggle with. My biggest concern at times was not having enough time, With only 24 hours in a day how do I find balance? I struggled with finding a balance between being an attentive mother as a newborn does require majority of your time. I still had duties to fulfill as a devoted wife, and taking care of my household. How do you even begin? it all begins with sacrifice, I learned to sacrifice the things that took much of my time but was not adding value to my life or my goals. The one thing I was very present to is that we cannot add more hours to a day we can only make time to focus on the things that are the most important. We must Make sure we are wisely investing time into our future in order to create the life that we love, one that brings us pure joy, free will, and great fulfillment.

In conclusion I want to remind everyone how precious time is and that it is important to not take a second for granted. There is not enough time in a day to waste a moment on unimportant things we are only robbing our future selves, and our family of new possibilities and a successful future. The most valuable lesson I have learned from my experience is that there is no real way to balance life because every day there are unexpected events that occurs that we cannot prevent or control. I learned to identify and focus on the things that are a priority in my life and give a hundred percent of myself to them It is not about how much time we think we have or need to get the job done; It’s about how you use your time to be in alignment with your goals.  Life does not get easier we get stronger by showing up each day and committing to our goals, everyday is not promised neither will It be perfect. The most important and rewarding thing is knowing your why and using each day as an opportunity to get closer to achieving your goals. I am a mother, a wife, and businesswoman on the rise you can do it too.

“We Have To Sacrafice The Things We Enjoy Now In Order To Create The Life We Deserve”

Restoring Your Peace

“Self-care is not selfish; you cannot serve from an empty vessel.” When you think about all the beautiful essentials in life that makes the world go around, there is an order of operation that is put in place to make sure everything goes on without a hitch. In everything there is an order of operation or a system set in place for things to get done whether it is at a job, at home, our cars, our home, our bills, and our kids we have a system in place to take care of all these things that are a priority in our lives. I want to ask everyone reading today what is your system or your order of operation that helps you to grow mentally and spiritually, what steps are you taking to filling your soul and healing internally? As necessary and well needed as this is to have in place as a man, woman, wife, husband, mother, a father, as living human beings this is the one thing that is the first to be compromised because we feel we will have time to work on that later. The truth is this is the first area in our lives we must focus on becoming better in before we can accomplish anything else. Our physical, mental, and emotional health is important we can never truly be successfully by being unhealthy, drained physically, mentally, and being an emotional disaster. It is possible to have great accomplishments because you possess great work ethics but all that becomes is a beautiful vase on the outside but an empty shallow whole on the inside.

 How do you work on these very important needs? the first step is by recognizing that we all have flaws and accepting and loving every part of ourselves and being willing to master ourselves.  To become a master at dealing with life we must first become a master of ourselves, who we are, who we are being, and what value we are adding in the world daily. As a life and wellness coach my passion and responsibility are to encourage, love and inspire others, but the only way I can be effective in what I do I first have to be able to nurture my soul. I must make the commitment to work on myself from the inside and out to avoid pouring from an empty cup. The reality is if I pour into others and forget to refill my vase eventually, I will become and empty vessel with nothing left to give to myself or others.  How do I commit to becoming a master of myself? is by setting up a system of things that are non-negotiable for myself daily.  I make sure at the beginning each day before I do anything I must have time to be with myself, to listen to my heart and my mind, I pray for strength and restoration daily, and I write down  all the things I am grateful for and my list of  affirmations. Lastly, I listen to motivational audios and I commit to applying the things I am learning and being able to identify the areas I need to work on. I started engaging in yoga every morning why because it makes me feel relaxed and rejuvenated after.

I am not telling you; you must do exactly what I do what I am encouraging everyone to do is take time to pour into yourself, fuel your mind focus on being healthy in all areas of your life. when you set out to chase your dreams and bring your visions to reality be sure that the first two priorities on that list is making time to connect with God and committing to living a healthier lifestyle. Everything in life is a choice there is no such thing as I cannot, or I do not have time, we all make the choice daily to do what is important to us.  If you are some one that is on this road take a stand for someone that is important to you invite them to join you if they are willing and open to receive the ones that are not do not make that a concern pray for them  and  continue to work on yourself and show them what is possible .We must remember that our body is a temple and should be treated as such, our quiet moments should not be compromised and over shadowed by other priorities. Rule number one love yourself enough to take care of you first and while we are busy chasing our purpose remember to still make time to worship who gave us purpose work that system you put in place and the rest will flow.

“Restore To Me The Joy Of Your Salvation And Grant Me A Willing Spirit , To Sustain Me.
Psalm 51:12”

Cruise Control

In life we all have and will experience really dark moments that may have a heavy impact on how we move forward in life. The hurt we experience comes in all different forms and from many different directions, from parents, friendships, and family we all go through many phases of growing pains, love, and lifelong lessons to appreciate. The truth is in everything we experience It is our perception of the what has happened that dictates how we react and move forward. There is a real spiritual ware fare that becomes present when we begin to operate out of fear and placing everyone we meet in the same category. Everyone is not the same and everyone is not on a mission to hurt you, the reality is we play a huge part in our experiences as well. Everything and everyone we have experienced we have attracted, and it is our responsibility to learn what role we played in our experiences. The idea of taking responsibility is perceived by most people as a declaration between who is wrong and who is right. This is where losing the idea of who is wrong or right and focus on what is working for us and what is not so that we can make the necessary changes come into play.  No man or woman is an island we were not created to be alone the secret to building great relationships is through spiritual growth and transform to trust that God will give us what we need and who we need to thrive together.

“If you change things will change’ the reality is if you want to attract new you must begin to change who you have always been and become the change you desire to see in the world. Like attracts like and when we shift our perspectives, change our attitudes we begin to change the atmosphere around as we begin to attract other like-minded people. Growing up I always knew I had a big heart I tend to love hard and I am very protective of the people I love. I always felt like I was continuously hitting a brick wall when it came to my friendships or even family alliance. A few weeks ago, I had to surrender and be honest and take responsible for who I was being and what I was accepting and in the same space expecting the opposite. I will have already received the signs and I know who a person is but yet I continue to hold on and work on relationships that were not adding value to my life. I had a reality check and I finally took responsibility for always placing expectations on people based on who I was to them. I took responsibility not because I felt like I was wrong, or the other person was wrong the reality is who I was being in those relationships were not working and I have to be willing to change it and let go. In letting go we cannot take our old experiences into new relationships and our past experiences should not change our heart and who we are as person.

Praying about everything and giving all of our worries to God is key, we do not have to move forward in fear and anger. We can give ourselves permission to trust and be open in all of our experiences and as we continue to ask God for the spirit of discernment and obedience. Pay attention to the signs to know how to move peacefully and protecting yourselves without being afraid to be your true authentic self.  Letting go is not always easy but we must trust that when one door closes many will open and everything according to God’s plan for our life is perfect. There will be new bonds being formed and connections being build with people that are ready to love and appreciate who you are and what you have to offer. Allow God to clean house from what we think we wanted to replace it with healthy connections that are built on spiritual and solid foundations. Commit everything on to God consult with Him in everything that you are doing, and you will be amazed by how everything flows when God is in control.  There is a natural flow when there is a great spiritual alignment that provides rewards us with a peace of mind that surpasses all understanding and joy.

“Where God Guides, He Provides.
Isaiah 58:11”

Life is Journey

“If at first you do not succeed dust yourself off and try again” I often find great irony and sometimes I am left  feeling a little confused as to why phrases like this one was always enforced as a child, but as we approach adulthood excuses and reasons are more acceptable. I believe that we all have valid reasons and there will be commitments that we are unable to keep, but Is it that we cannot or are we choosing to hold on to what is comforting and easy. The real question is can we afford the excuses or time being wasted? for every excuse that is an opportunity missed to add value or see real progress. The more excuses we have the more we struggle to thrive daily, putting of what we can do today for tomorrow only adds more stress for us mentally. Tomorrow has its own share of challenges we must always be mindful that we are not taking on more than we can handle. The reality is most of the time we create unnecessary stress in our lives through our thoughts, actions, and all the limiting beliefs we hold on to. Life will be as simple as we make, and we will be as happy as we decide to be.

This leads me to share my experience last week Friday In the park as I was enjoying nature and quality time with my daughter, I noticed an older gentleman and two young kids a little girl and a little boy who both appeared to be between the ages of seven and nine years old.  The gentleman was teaching them how to ride a bike which was a beautiful sight to see, but what I found to be the most amazing part was how he used his words to motivate and encourage them. Once they got on the bike, he would guide them with instructions and if they fell short of the mark, they were aiming for what he did was highlight their progress. By doing that he was training their mind to not focus only on what they did not accomplish but to be happy with the small progress made. The result of him doing this repeatedly I witnessed how quickly the kid’s confidence grew and each time they fell he congratulated and encouraged them to get back and do it again. Each time they got faster, farther, and better, why? because he used his words to change their perception of what was happening and how to recollect themselves after falling. Do you remember the first time you were learning to ride a bike?  what if you began to apply that same mentally in your life the way you did when you were learning to ride a bike for the first time. Ultimately you will realize that life is just like riding a bike first you must identify what your vision is for your life. Secondly learn what it takes to achieve it, decide what you are willing to give up for it to be a success. Once you have created your mental check list it is time to get to work, finding what works for you and you begin to pedal. In the beginning take it slow and steady, each time you fall you take a mental note you get back up and you try and try again each time applying the lessons learned until you master it.

“Life Is A Long Journey ,With Problems To Solve, Lessons To Learn,But Most Of All Experiences To Enjoy.”

In conclusion I want to share how important it truly is to protect and feed your mind, our thoughts and our words are powerful, and they shape our reality.  It is important that we are feeding our minds with materials and thoughts that serves us in a positive way. We cannot afford to be distracted or defeated by the choices we make with only twenty-four hours in a day it is important that we make the best of it. Complaining will not grant us more time, throwing in the towel every time you fall will make your life easy or fulfilling. Success comes with hard work, sacrifice and commitment there will be moment when everything is flowing and working in our favor and there will be moments when everything feels like it is crumbling. It is normal and it is okay to take a second to inhale exhale cry if you must but never ever quit.  The greatest tool that we have is the power to choose the kind of day, and life you truly desire and be ready and willing to fight the good fight. Pray about every situation, every challenge, and every time you fall pray for the strength to keep going. Life owes us nothing we owe it to ourselves to become the best version of ourselves as we work to bring our vision to reality. Find your bike, get on balance and pace yourself because this is a marathon worth entering and we are going for a ride