The Journey

One of the greatest rewards we can choose to gift ourselves is to be present though our many adventures through life. It is almost common or may I say seemingly normal for one to surpress or attempt to block out their emotions and even their thoughts as they are experiencing something new , something challenging , and sometimes even something exciting. I know you might be wondering why would some one want to surpress their feelings when they are experiencing something excited? The truth is When you are always expecting the worse when the good arrives they may perceive it as being too good to be true they may even ask questions like what’s the catch , which in most cases is created by lack of self worth , which encourages one to believe they are not worthy. The truth is while the outcome is not our responsibility how we respond or react is a 100% ours. We must invest more time being in constant communication with God and more time seeking to find the lessons receiving them to apply them and counting all experiences as a blessings. We spend a lot of time being so critical on ourselves when we make a mistake or when things just do not happen according to our plans this is where we must practice the skill of forgiveness with ourselves. If we are unable to forgive ourselves it will be impossible to truly forgive others, in everything that we set out to master it takes time, practice, patience and forgiveness is one of those. We must first understand what it means to forgive and why it is important for us to forgive ourselves and others. When we fail to forgive ourselves we rob ourselves of the opportunity of ever getting back up and trying again because after a failed attempt comes the false and limiting story that encourages us to give up. On the other hand there are those that struggle with possibly forgiving their parents or any past trauma they may have endured and they allow those experiences to mean something bad about them and be in control of how they operate moving forward.

Have you ever written a list of all the good that resulted from many of our experiences even the most difficult experiences we will see that they all have a lot to offer us. Normally when one is experiencing pain or unexpected changes the first action taken is to either take something to reduce the pain, there are often moments of wishing it would go away , and lastly but most commonly the act of denial or to simply avoid what we are really feeling. What if we actually give ourselves permission to feel , to acknowledge our feelings and thoughts that is present in that moment? It is important that we understand that no matter where we are on our journey, is to remember that we are people with real feelings and emotions that must be addressed and expressed , and the more we try to hide the more harm is done to our emotional and mental health. Pain is necessary , pain has purpose and the sooner we stop being afraid or resistant to being present and open to learn from them the better we are at handling life. When I began my journey of choosing unapologetic happiness there were many moments on my journey that I forgot that just because I was choosing to be happy and not allow life to get the best of me that it did not mean that I was immortal. There were also moments where people that were close to me made me feel like is was not okay to express myself if it was not a positive expression. I had to learn to not only be unapologetic about my happiness but to be vulnerable and exercise my power of choice and freedom to provide myself with what is best for me at all times. Often that meant to not care about what anyone would think of me or say about me, because my duty is not to fit into other people’s expectations or perception of me. It is my responsibility to remain committed to my well being and apart of being happy and healthy is in making choices daily that adds value and helps me to be better each day.

While we may never have all the answers to the questions about life we should never allow the mysteries of life to discourage us. Life is not about having all the answers it is about learning as we go along collecting information, increasing in our knowledge on what is in our access and using wisdom to apply them. There is no destination to happiness it is a journey and a choice we make daily , but in choosing happiness we must also choose to be free and vulnerable. Just as there Is a time and a place for everything , that also includes knowing that there is a time and a place to laugh, to cry , to be still, to take action and to be in tune with ourselves to know what we need to serve ourselves. People will always try to change you , make you wrong , try to dictate how to be you and it is up to us not allow them to. It is not by chance or accident that we all have unique gifts, talents , and skills that sets us apart from others and we must always be proud and appreciative of them. Live your life on the edge being vibrant and fearless every waking moment we have the power to plan our happiness , plan our success and plan to make life an adventure. Life happens there are highs and lows more highs and more lows but that does not have to mean we have to live without hope or excitement . Make life your play ground and each time you fall off the monkey bars be sure to get back up take notes and responsibility for your actions that led you there and forgive yourself and keep pushing past your limits.

“The Only Impossible Journey Is The One You Never Begin.

– Tony Robbins”