Disconnect & Level Up

There is a fine line between business and personal relationships the very thing that can hold us back is not knowing when to separate the two. If you are someone that has a vision to be your own boss, you must be prepared for the changes that will be present on our journey. There will be friendships that will feel like a strain and some friendships that will fade. They say if you want to know who your true friends are or have clarity on the people that are with you and for you pay attention when you go through rough times or start a business. In the beginning when you share your desires to people everyone will share their views whether they think it is a good or bad idea, most will say go for it I support you until you get started. We must be careful in getting our hopes up and having high expectations in promises, by doing that we get trapped in the hype and our emotions become a distraction from the goal. There will be  people that will say they have your best interest at heart, and support you fully because it sounds good, but may not be coming from a genuine place The down side to having high expectations In people will leave you feeling  discouraged I like to call this a dream killer, because we tend to forget sometimes that our vision is ours to get excited about and remain self-motivated.  Too often many make the mistake of being motivated by words and empty promises, and when we are not receiving that outside support it becomes difficult to be self -motivated. Relying on others to show up for us is the same as giving complete control of our vision. If you are not self-motivated and driven by your vision or having a Why, this will create doubt and disappointment when we become consumed with seeking validation and cheer leaders.

It is very important in the beginning to practice being excited and prepared to be your own cheer leader, and your own hype man or woman. A lot of people will be quick to promise and slow to act on their promises, one of the main reasons is because they really did not believe you would begin.  When it becomes apparent that you are and taking it head on those same people can become intimidated and some envious. Everyone is not brave enough to step out of their comfort zone and commit to doing something they love without a guarantee steady income. This is a terrifying thought for most and some won’t understand it, while others will be watching and waiting for you to give up. These are the kind of people you want to grow farther away from and Surround yourselves with like-minded people. This is usually where it gets hard because of the history with person or the nature of a relationship. Learning how to detach from the things and people that are no good for where you we are headed, understanding that in order to go higher there are some stuff and people we will have to let go. The reality is as you change so does your circle of influence, the less friends you have on board the greater your chances are to succeed. Friends will be the first to ask for favors and discounts, and they will be the last to promote your new project but will be the loudest about them supporting you, while their actions gave a different language.

“Letting Go Is The First Step To Elevating
From What You Know
To Explore The Great Unknown.”

This is all a part of the process of elimination, I am not advising anyone to wake up tomorrow and cut off communication with everyone immediately, there is a polite way to separate yourselves by simply making yourself unavailable. Learning to love people from a distance is an important decision to be made.it Is okay to continue to love these people and still be friends on our own time. Having boundaries between your friendships and your business makes life a lot less complicated. It takes a brave heart to stick to your values and expectation some will stick around, and some will slowly fade away. We are all capable of creating an extraordinary life, but we must have clarity on what we desire for our life and be ready to work for it.  The truth is people are limited by their belief system of the things they were taught growing up and being comfortable. They are limited by their circumstances and too afraid to think outside the box and create new possibilities. This is where the power of choice plays a part because we can either choose to keep enrolling limited people into our creative space or we can keep them at a respectable distance  I say this not to be mean and neither am I encouraging anyone to act like they are above any one, but sometimes removing yourself could be what is best for that person to get in action for themselves. I firmly believe if you are not able to find a solution, if your presence does not help the situation then it is possible the only solution is to step back and allow what is meant to happen to take its natural course.