“Sit with yourself, discover yourself, get to know who you are what you want and how you plan to begin to lead yourself.” I wanted to share that quote as a brief reminder to everyone that it is very important to build a relationship and a loving bond with our selves before trying to create that with anyone else. Reason being is we will spend too much time trying to make someone else wrong for not loving or showing us enough love when we do not give that to ourselves. We cannot expect someone else to oversee our happiness and fulfill the needs of our mind when we do not make our happiness a priority. No one is responsible for our happiness we determine how happy we will ever be. No matter how great a person treats us or the grand gifts they shower us with, if we are not happy internally nothing or no one can fill that void. Ladies and gentlemen by not being complete with yourself and aware of your insecurities you will continue to push people away. No one wants to be alone and neither is it intended for anyone to be alone. The truth is becoming whole with yourself sets the tone for all your relationships in your life. We all have a past and trials that have created certain insecurities about ourselves the way we look, the way we think, the way we communicate   and the way we interpret other people’s actions. What is important is losing all those things that may have created the spirit of low self-esteem, not knowing how to communicate, how to give or receive love. Everyone is not out to hurt us or get us as some say be careful with our thoughts the mind is a powerful thing to waste let us fill it with positive thoughts.

The truth is we hold the key to change the direction of or life by deciding when enough is enough, by deciding to let go of the past hurts and no longer will we decide to be held captive in them. Take time to date yourself get to know your strengths and your weaknesses and tap into how powerful you are when you are whole and healthy mentally, physically and spiritually. If we do not take time to do this, we will spend our whole lives taking things personal, living in a circle, and not ever being truly free or happy. It is important that we learn to not project our own insecurities off on to someone else. The stories we create behind what the truth is and what soothes our emotions do not make it true. In becoming selfless we learn that everything is not about us the world and everyone you know is not out to get you. The goal is to not become that person that never takes ownership and blaming others for who we are being or our short comings. What we believe people think about us is just what we think about ourselves and our own struggle with self-love, self-appreciation and acceptance of who we are. Today I am encouraging everyone single. Married, or dating to really take time to get to know you, love you and everything about you flaws and all we are Perfect in God’s eyes. Until we begin to love, understand, and accept who we are we will rob ourselves of the opportunity to tap into our true selves and purpose. Do not miss out on the chance to live a happy, blessed, and free life full of love and laughter. Happiness is an internal feeling expressed out loud.