Too often we commit to things in our life for reasons that are outside of ourselves, whether it makes sense to our family, friends, or significant others. Doing things that we have no true connection or desire for is not only unfair to ourselves, but it robs of time. Time is not a guarantee and it is certainly not something we should take for granted. There are people that live their lives as if tomorrow is promised and there are people that take each day as it comes without planning or preparation. Setting goals, having a list of priority, and managing our time is how we set up ourselves to win. The desires of our hearts can only be achieved if we work for it and align ourselves. Excuses are easy and some are valid, however they are limiting to our level of progress. Everyday will not be perfect but every day is worth a hundred percent commitment to our vision. The first step is to starve our distractions and feed our focus, practice to engage in less activities and conversations that takes you away from our priorities. My definition of success will not be the same as the next person, but we all will be on a journey filled with tests and lessons.

 Having a strong foundation to build on is important in anything we do in life. I also believe and trust in having strong why’s to keep me committed and motivated, to show up even on the days I wanted to quit. Most importantly our fulfilment and happiness in life must be one of our biggest why’s for showing up. I often hear a lot of people say they commit because of their family, parents, and the list can continue, all of those are good reasons but they are not strong enough to sustain us on our journey. Why? Because committing things only for the satisfaction of others robs us of the opportunity to be happy and truly enjoy what we do. Choosing ourselves first is not selfish it is what I considered being selfless, the best display of love we can give to others is by taking care of ourselves. We are only as good to the people we love as we are to ourselves, it is impossible to give love and compassion to others that you do not give to yourself. That is what I consider to be pouring from an empty cup, if the cup is empty you do not have much to give to yourself or anyone else. I set myself up to win and achieve all my goals through first committing to self-preservation. Taking care of my mind, my body, and strengthening my spirituality to keep me grounded, only then can I commit showing up for the people I love.

In closing I want to encourage us to not be pressured to do what everyone else expects from us, we should not feel pressured to change who we are because everyone else does not understand us. We are not here to be understood or accepted by everyone we all have different ways of being and thinking. On our journey is where we learn more about ourselves, we learn who is for us, with us, and who is against us. Every experience has great purpose and lessons behind them, sometimes we allow our emotions to take control of how we apply these lessons moving forward this does not make us week it makes you human. The most important thing is being able to reset and pull yourself back together, also creating a safe space that grounds you. Having an accountability partner, and most importantly committing to growing spiritually building a relationship of trust with God. One thing I have learned is we will never have it all figured out life is a constantly changing, and we are constantly evolving and developing as a person. Every new level will require more from us and we must allow ourselves to go through the changes and grow through each test. Show up because you deserve to live a life you love, show up because the people you love deserves to experience who you were created to be.