I believe that when we truly desire to have something, we will do whatever it takes to make it happen, but somehow everyone struggles with choosing happiness and peace for their lives. To most it seems easier to go the extra mile to make sure they have the latest foot wear, the latest clothing line out, the most recent model of a car but when the option of choosing happiness for your life is present that choice is almost nonexistent.  I will not speak for everyone but from my experience and from conversations I have engaged in the one thing we shared was the need to worry about hurting others or losing something that is worth less than our well-being. The  things or the people we try to hold on it are some of the most toxic  obstacles we face  how ever the pain and aggravation seems to be worth it because  we will hold on and put all  of our energy in trying to change that person or fix something that cannot be fixed.  The question I asked myself and others is if all you receive is the same disappointing results do you get tired? are you ready for a new thing in your life? Once I presented my self with that question in that moment, I did not have the answer because again I was too attached to the result of how I would make others feel about my decisions or changes.

I did what most people would do I continued to compromise myself, my peace, my happiness, and precious time that I was robbing myself of. The only person that continued to suffer was me and once I forgave myself this was the moment, I decided to begin to live my life for me and be unapologetic about my happiness by protecting my peace no matter what. The veil was removed I began to see people and things for who and what they were, at first it hurts but as I continued to give myself the love that I once was so busy giving away to everyone else. The choice to live unapologetic and choosing me first was an amazing, rewarding, and empowering feeling that I fell in love with. The more I poured into myself the more I made it a priority to protect my peace I began to learn how to be in service to those who needed me without the emotional attachment and learning when to walk away from situations that only take away from me. I did not make it a priority to go  around telling people off or making a grand announcement that created this change ,I simply just started saying no more ,I stop engaging in self-defeating  battles and I  allowed others  to operate at their own level without me needing to change or try to control their actions. Through out this journey the one thing I got really present to is that God will always reveal and remove all that is meant to harm us, but it is impossible for things to be revealed if we have not accepted God as out protector.

Life is not about how much control we have over what others do and the things we experience life is  truly about going through each day with a commitment to God first , yourself second , and everyone in your life even the strangers you connect with to be a blessing to them . The more time we invest into developing our mind, body, soul, and spirit the better we are at flowing through life, we can align ourselves and attract the kind of change we want to see in the world. It begins with us taking a good look in the mirror and being in complete gratitude for the simple things in life, knowing when it is time to give and when it is time to receive. Choosing yourself does not making you selfish it makes you selfless because by restoring you your purpose can begin which is bigger than you. I encourage you all to drop some of your heavy loads along the way to prepare to take flight when you live in purpose you can longer carry the burdens of others you can lead them to their greatness. I want you to remember being unapologetic is about standing firm in your value and purpose to let go of anything or anyone that becomes a distraction from what you deserve. It is okay to walk away pray about everything and have integrity with yourself and who you are committed to being.