“Do not worry about anything; Instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank him for all he has done “Philippians 4:6. This scripture is one that I refer to daily for guidance through all my experiences and opportunities that I face daily. There will always be obstacles to face that are out of our control, which means we all need appoint of reference to remain grounded. Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on, a listening air, and someone to rely on when going through difficult seasons in our life. The only down fall to relying on friends and family to be available to help us when we need them the most is the possibility of being disappointment. The reason why we are disappointed is due to the high expectations we set on others that are not obligated neither do they owe us anything.  There is a saying I often heard growing up that “it is not who you help will help you.” The truth is when we are experiencing hardships in life it is natural to look to the people that you have helped or the people that play important roles in your life. The first person and most reliable source we should turn to is God, there is no limit on how often we can pray. God is never too busy to listen and provide us with the answers, and comfort that we need.

I recall moments in my younger adult years when things were not flowing the way I anticipated it to go. The first thing that I would do is jump into panic mode, adding meaning to what was happening.  The more I focus on what was going wrong I grew eager to reach out to someone to throw up on them with my problems. If they were not available, I would graduate to another level of frustration.  I did this for a long time until I had a reality check with myself, I asked myself “what has complaining or being a victim to my circumstances done for me.” The truth is complaining has never served me well in any situation, it is a limiting mindset that keeps us stuck and unable to create a solution. How I was able to minimize my level of frustration or complaints was through prayer. I trained my mind to pray when things are not going as planned and accept that in that moment what I am experiencing is for a great purpose. The fear of what we do not know is the reason why this was a struggle for me at first. To trust the process is to be completely vulnerable to the constant changes without ever changing our attitude. Our reaction to the challenges can either reward us or set us back a few steps, it is a choice that we must be mindful of before we choose.

Having an attitude of gratitude does not mean that life is perfect, it means that you are in a space of awareness with the understanding that life is not happening to us it is happening for us. The most reliable and resourceful connection we all have access to is God. In the darkest hour is when we are most vulnerable to our weaknesses but we there is great strength within our lips if we choose to speak the lord’s language. The longer we settle the more difficult it is to evolve, if we are willing to accept and let go of what is not serving us, we are more equipped to make choices that adds value to our life. The behaviors that we have learned will not disappear over night but the more we practice personal development and choosing gratitude we are able to thrive. Life begins to feel like an adventure full of surprises, rewards, and life lessons along the way, because you made a choice to pray about everything and keep moving.  There is a reason in every season and every season will not be the season of break through. but in every season, there is plenty of opportunities to learn something, give up somethings, and create something new. The moment you can view life with an open mind and open arms is the moment your life will change.