“Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair”, do you believe that trust can be restored in relationships?  I believe it is very possible if both individuals are willing to do the work, one must be willing to forgive without judgement and one must be prepared to work to earn it back.   Both party must be   transparent with each other and taking responsibility for their role in the situation that has damaged the level of trust.  Trust is an action that takes mental strength and spiritual growth, just saying you trust someone verbally and being emotionally disturbed internally is the same as not trusting or forgiving. It is extremely important that we can communicate to each other exactly how the actions taken have affected you, and both parties must be open to listen to understand, not to justify or judge the other person. It is not for us to hold on to and continue to use it against each other every chance you find fitting forgiving is the first step to regaining your level of trust with each other.

From listening, analyzing situations, and even from my own personal experience the blame game is never a winning game for any one, this only leaves everyone in constant turmoil and aggression.  What ever we do is our choice blaming someone else for our action is just a short cut around taking responsibility for your part in the conflict. When we resort to placing blame, there is no resolution because the other person will object to that claim, which is right no one has the power to make us do anything we do not want to. self-control is also very important in relationships, even when the trust has been affected, we must be aware of our actions and how we are working to show that we are deserving of their trust. Being honest even when it hurts is a must, sometimes we think hiding the truth to spare someone’s feelings is better than telling the truth. I have learned someone will appreciate a respect your honesty before they respect a lie, if you must choose between being honest or lying choose to save your name by telling the truth.

In the end your word is all you have and while having flaws are easy to work with, trying to make things work with some one who refrains from telling the truth is an impossible fix. If you want trust   always to be truthful in any relationship or situation you are in it doesn’t cost to be honest but there is a lot to be lost when you lie. Who you are being your character is something that people will always remember doing all the good in the world means nothing if your character and name is no good, in life most people will always remember the bad before they congratulate you on the good.  I share this to say in   life we must live to the best of our ability and in a way that reflects the good intent of our heart as a person.  The world is full of people that are scared to live, great pretenders, and people that are misunderstood, we need more leaders that are not afraid to live, be authentic, and most importantly they pride themselves on honesty   honoring their word.